EPISODE 251: Founder & CEO, Inspiring Comfort LLC & Author of Showing Up
Episode 251 features Jen Marr, a Speaker, Author, and Founder and CEO of Inspiring Comfort. She has utilized her 30 years of experience in business, leadership development, and the healthcare industry to research, develop, and offer solutions to our current mental health crisis.
Jen Marr is a Speaker, Author, and Founder and CEO of Inspiring Comfort. She has utilized her 30 years of experience in business, leadership development, and the healthcare industry to research, develop, and offer solutions to our current mental health crisis.
Ten years ago, Jen had a front-row seat to the Sandy Hook tragedy and to the Boston Marathon bombing. She immediately began working in crisis response and recovery efforts. She saw first-hand the need for ongoing support for those who are struggling. In doing this, she realized there is a massive gap between people who are struggling and people who want to help, but don’t know how. This is when Inspiring Comfort was born.
Since then, Jen has been immersed in trauma research and developing programs that address this gap. Her work in the field of human connection has made an indelible impact on the lives of countless people. She is passionate about furthering the science of human connection and has worked with researchers and thought leaders across the country to cultivate cultures of care through the critical life skill of comfort.
This movement is taking root in notable organizations including the White House Leadership Development Program, the National Suicide Lifeline, Georgetown University, Northeastern University, The New York Office of Mental Health, and the American Association of Suicidology.
We bring people into our lives for various reasons. As time passes and growth happens there may be people that end up not being appropriate to share our time with anymore.
Sometimes it is easy to discover the destructive ones but often times we are incapable or unwilling to see when the writing is on the wall.
As relationships progress it’s often important to ask questions about them.
Questions such as:
Do they reach out to me consistently or only when they are lonely or need something?
Can they share advice and insight in a constructive manner or are they always talking down to me?
Do they talk about themselves or their problems constantly and rarely ask how I am doing?
Are they present in my time of need or only when convenient for them?
There is only so much time to go around and spending more time with fewer people might not be a bad philosophy as support systems become more important to get us through the hard times.
Deep not wide is an approach to consider in these situations.
As the saying goes, “We are the average of the five people we spend our most time with”.
Choose people that fill up your cup and you theirs. Life is too short for the alternative.
This month I would be celebrating my 10 year wedding anniversary.
But we didn’t make it much past year 7.
In a strange way, I still celebrate that day and spend time thinking about the past.
The good times and the bad. The ups and the downs. The lessons I wish I knew then but only learned much later.
The outcome may not have changed. Different people with different values may not have worked out if we played it back 100 different ways.
And that’s why I reflect.
It’s okay that it didn’t work out.
I still cherish the time we had together. The early days were really fun. I was in love and I know she was, too. We’ll always have that time etched in the archives of our story.
It was a big part of my journey to get where I am today. I’m more grateful than heartbroken.
I don’t look at divorce as a failure. In fact, it could be considered a win. We both have the chance to learn and change. We both have the chance to explore new horizons we might not have ventured into. We both can use the past as a lesson to help in the future.
The story of “us” looks different than it did 10 years ago and just because it might not have the fairytale ending doesn’t mean there can’t be a silver lining to it all.
So, cheers to whatever you are celebrating that has been a big chapter in the story of your life!
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