Reflection Corner

I want you to sit with 3 questions. Take out some paper and write your responses. They become much more real when you get them out of your head.

  1. What is the thing that you fear most right now and why? I want you to explore the depths. Where do you think it came from and why does it exist in your life?
  2. What would your life look like if the fear didn’t exist? I want you to write a short story about the type of person you’d be without the fear.
  3. What is the worst thing that happens if you have to face the fear? What’s the blowback, struggle, or hurt that you feel you’d have to experience by facing it?

Your answers are not wrong, they’re honest.

Knowing what you now know, is it worth facing that fear?

That’s only a question you are qualified to answer.

Reflection Corner2023-12-20T15:49:57-04:00

Cape Fear

Everyone needs a compass, but most of us don’t know how to use it.

Daily decisions that seem small are what cause us to veer off course.

It’s not about making monumental changes but small microscopic alterations in our daily decision-making to change the future narrative.

But why do we have a hard time doing it?

→ FEAR…Fear holds us back.

Fear of Success – This is a confidence issue. We don’t feel we are ever worthy of having what we want and we let the unknown potential “success” stifle our growth.

Fear of Letting Ourselves Down – Trying and failing is hard to deal with and it feels much easier to handle the regret that might come afterward instead of “at the moment” discomfort. Regret can be delayed if we trick ourselves into thinking we might do it at some point.

Fear of Judgment From Others – We put so much stock into what others think about our lives that it can impact the decisions we should be making to live a more enjoyable life.

Fear of Thinking the “Thing” Is Bigger Than It Is – Almost nobody is going to see our initial output but we think the masses are going to scour at it and ridicule us. We think that this is the most important thing to human existence and therefore overthink it.

Fear of Poor Execution – Paralysis by Analysis. If it’s not perfect we won’t put it out. We need to have it formed exactly right before the launch in order to appease others who might see it.

Fear of Rejection – If we put ourselves out into the world we can get rejected because we might act differently from how we think the world perceives us. That causes a rift and might bruise our ego. Acceptance good. Rejection bad. ****That’s how the world tells us we should feel.

Fear of Getting What We Want – Because then we have the responsibility of managing it and committing to it. That puts a lot of fear into us because now we must take action. And with action could come (insert any of the above Fears).

Which one holds you back?

Once we are able to accept ourselves for who we are and understand what gets in our way we can start leading our lives in a direction filled with less stress, anxiety, and fear.

That’s when the journey gets really fun!

Cape Fear2023-11-19T20:59:20-04:00

R & R

Does anyone else struggle with always feeling like they have to be “on”?

I’m working hard on being aware of this.

So, today I took a positive step forward and I’ve come to the conclusion that Mondays have to be my “take it easy” day.

As a single Dad, Mondays are the transition days. So it’s either the first day without my son in a week or it’s the first day getting him back after a week off.

I’ve recognized it’s a tiring day, either way, and I’ve found myself having to push through.

Today I decided I was going to chill. I’m not going to force it. I’m going to take a break from the work.

Being kind to ourselves can show up in many ways. Recognizing where we thrive is valuable and so is understanding when the “pause” button is necessary.

We don’t have to be “on” all the time.

→ Sometimes we need to rest and recharge.

We’ll be better for it tomorrow, too!

R & R2023-11-19T16:08:42-04:00

Swifties

Taylor Swift is showing us:

  • We should do it our way
  • People respect vulnerability
  • As we age we become refined
  • We are more creative in pain than in triumph
  • Time away allows us to view our work from a different perspective

I don’t know about you but I’m enjoying “Taylor’s version” very much.

Swifties2023-09-30T15:32:18-04:00

The Starting Spectrum

Where are you on the “starting spectrum”?

  • Are you feeling stuck?
  • Are you excited but fearful?
  • Are you thinking about ideas?
  • Are you trying to “find the time”?
  • Are you observing like-minded folks?
  • Are you curious about how to grow and evolve?

If you fall into one or more of these categories then you are in a great spot.

It means you are eager to make a shift in your life.

You are on the cusp of a massive change.

But, what is going to tip you over the edge?

Is there one action you can take today to give yourself a jolt forward?

Lean into that answer and trust the unknown.

It will become clearer once you start.

The Starting Spectrum2023-08-06T10:17:14-04:00
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STAR HANSEN

EPISODE 365: Clutter Whisperer and Certified Professional Organizer

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Episode 365 features Star Hansen, Clutter Whisperer, and Certified Professional Organizer.

If you’re looking to start decluttering your life, Star recommends starting here: https://starhansen.com/podcast/

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About Star:

Star Hansen is a Clutter Whisperer and Certified Professional Organizer. She helps successful people who feel like a hot mess to figure out why their clutter isn’t going away so they can finally clear the chaos, and live a life of freedom, joy, and peace. She’s the organizer you call when nothing else works!

Star has been helping people clear their clutter since 2004. She’s a member of NAPO (The National Association of Productivity & Organizing Professionals). Her boutique organizing firm, Reveal by Star, LLC offers online courses and coaching to help people set themselves free from their clutter.

Star created the Chaos to Calm Organizing Community in 2019 to support people from across the globe in their organizing transformations. This online community has provided a safe, healing space for people to unpack what’s hiding in their clutter and finally see progress after years of attempts.

Star’s multi-layered approach is that of mind, body, spirit, & space. She has a knack for seeing through the chaos and into the lives & hearts of the people she works with. Her approach has been featured on OWN, TLC, HGTV, Style, A&E, and NPR. She has been a contributor to O Magazine, Woman’s Day, and Oprah.com. Star’s humorous and thought-provoking TEDx Tucson talk explores what the monsters in your closet are trying to tell you.

Star lives in Santa Fe, NM. She is an 8th-generation Tucsonan who loves living in the southwest and never misses an opportunity to soak up a desert sunrise, sunset, or monsoon downpour.

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Star Hansen2023-07-10T21:09:20-04:00

Don’t Ignore It

The common phrase is “Be so good they can’t ignore you.”

Even better, “Be so aware you can’t ignore yourself.”

When we remove the barriers we can explore our minds at a deeper level to expose all of our insecurities and anxieties. This work becomes useful to avoid the pitfalls of making the same mistakes over and over again.

As Paulo Coelho says, “A mistake repeated more than once is a decision.”

Mistakes will happen but it’s the awareness and reflection of why they happened that allows us to make better decisions when similar situations arise in the future.

We stop ignoring the flashing red lights and begin to forge a new path toward learning about ourselves.

It’s one of the only ways we can become a better version of ourselves.

Don’t Ignore It2023-08-03T18:50:01-04:00
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CRAIG STANLAND

EPISODE 339: Reinvention Architect, TEDx & Keynote Speaker, and Author

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Episode 339 features Craig Stanland, a Reinvention Architect, TEDx & Keynote Speaker, and Author of “Blank Canvas, How I Reinvented My Life After Prison.”

Find Craig Online:

Website: www.craigstanland.com

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigstanland/

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About Craig:

Craig Stanland is a Reinvention Architect, TEDx & Keynote Speaker, and Author of “Blank Canvas, How I Reinvented My Life After Prison.” He specializes in working with clients who’ve chased success, money, and status in their 1st half, only to find a success-sized hole in their lives. He helps them tap into their full potential and connect with their calling to create their extraordinary 2nd half with purpose, meaning, and fulfillment.

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Craig Stanland2023-04-03T20:06:21-04:00

Captain’s Log

Day 14,674

Promising results today but, alas, I still haven’t figured out this thing called life.

Must keep learning and growing from each experience.

More experiments to follow.

Don’t give up.

You’re close.

Captain’s Log2023-03-09T19:17:05-04:00

House Cleaning

It’s difficult to help others when we haven’t helped ourselves first.

We need to get our house in order.

We owe it to ourselves to do the work necessary to understand why we are feeling at our worst and what makes us energized at our best.

Sometimes it’s easier to remove the negative elements first as that opens the airways to let a breath of fresh air in.

Where do we start? We could ask ourselves a simple question, “What is giving me anxiety today?”

The exploration of that answer is a new beginning to our understanding.

We’ve found our home-base.

Now we can pave a path forward.

House Cleaning2023-02-18T14:47:48-04:00

Fulfillment Center

We are happier more often when we’ve found fulfillment in life.

When we have a responsibility or purpose.

When we have a grasp on things.

How do we find fulfillment?

Start with these questions…

What activities make me feel the most alive?
When I need energy I ____?
When I lose track of time hanging out, the qualities those people possess the most are ____?
When I do ____ I normally don’t feel as good about myself?
I get most excited when I do ____?

The answers to these bring us closer to understanding ourselves.

Closer to accepting reality.

Closer to finding clarity.

Self-awareness becomes the accountability mirror we need to be staring into each day.

Fulfillment Center2022-12-13T20:58:55-04:00

Passion Bucket

If you’ve said to yourself “I don’t know what I’m passionate about” then you’re in luck.

You should consider yourself grateful.

Because now you get to explore. You get to tinker. You get to try things. You get to figure it out.

You start to rule out things you don’t like and keep putting energy into the stuff you do.

When we don’t have anything we are truly passionate about it gives us agency to lean into new experiences and try to discover what we may like.

It all comes down to a choice. A choice to choose a small amount of discomfort in order to discover new things.

Things we might become insanely passionate about.

Don’t give up because you haven’t found your passion yet.

That’s the exciting part of the journey.

Keep searching.

Passion Bucket2022-10-07T20:01:59-04:00

Smells Like Potential

Potential The inherent ability or capacity for growth, development, or future success.

When we were told as kids, “You have potential”, it meant that we had a lot of opportunities to grow into something more than we were at that time.

However, I wish we interpreted it as the ability to step outside of the box we were in, shake it up a bit, turn it upside down, and then see what happens. I wish we were told that we control our “potential” by prodding and poking our belief systems.

We develop beliefs about all types of things from the time we are young but if we are not careful we start to become those beliefs, even if they are peppered with unfounded information and half-truths.

We have to battle-test our own beliefs and make sure they are not claims we’ve just gone with because they’ve been with us for so long. Because they feel comfortable and make sense to us.

We have to have the courage to at least try. Otherwise, we’ll only be able to stretch as far as those beliefs allow us to go.

We thought differently back then. We observed differently. Our environment was different.

So why hang on to the old belief systems?

We have the potential to change our beliefs if we give ourselves the opportunity to get outside that box that society likes to put us in.

The one that we have kindly accepted all of these years without question.

Smells Like Potential2022-09-10T17:37:03-04:00

Valuable Discovery

If we haven’t defined what “happiness” means to us then how can we be sure we are making the right choices to lead us to a happier life?

Happiness is the result of consistent decisions that are aligned with our virtues, values, and vision for our life.

Seeking happiness is irrelevant if we don’t have a clearer direction on which way to go.

If we are looking for a place to start that might not be a bad first step.

Valuable Discovery2022-09-10T16:12:07-04:00

Define Happiness

If we haven’t defined what “happiness” means to us then how can we be sure we are making the right choices to lead us to a happier life?

Happiness is the result of consistent decisions that are aligned with our virtues, values, and vision for our life.

Seeking happiness is irrelevant if we don’t have a clearer direction on which way to go.

If we are looking for a place to start that might not be a bad first step.

Define Happiness2022-08-18T19:40:32-04:00
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Monique Rhodes

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Episode 269 features Monique Rhodes, a Happiness Strategist who teaches students and corporations around the world how to master their lives. She has spent the last 25 years studying the mind and its relationship to happiness and suffering.

Find Monique Online:

Website: https://moniquerhodes.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/moniquerhodesofficial/

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In Your Right Mind Podcast: https://moniquerhodes.com/podcasts/

About Monique:

Monique Rhodes is a Happiness Strategist who teaches students and corporations around the world how to master their lives. She has spent the last 25 years studying the mind and its relationship to happiness and suffering.

Over 70 universities and colleges use her program The 10 Minute Mind®. Her 8-week online course, The Happiness Baseline, has a 100% success rate in raising the mental wellness for every student who has completed it.

Monique hosts the daily IN YOUR RIGHT MIND podcast, where she discusses how a series of small habits determine our well-being. Monique collaborated with prominent spiritual teachers Thich Naht Hahn, Ekhart Tolle, and Pema Chödrön on the Heartbeats album. She then completed a similar project with the Dalai Lama.

In 2010 Monique received a nomination for the prestigious New Zealander of the Year Award. An insatiable world traveler, Monique spends her time between Los Angeles and her homeland, New Zealand.

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Monique Rhodes2022-08-01T17:21:07-04:00

Mud on the Tires

Maybe we shouldn’t have it all figured out.

Maybe seeking is part of the enjoyment of life. That discovery into the unknown.

It’s a bit scary.

It’ll wake us up.

We’ll need to focus.

We can’t put the mind in “self-drive” mode and cruise.

Life is not going mindlessly through each day and getting by.

It is supposed to be lived.

Fully present. Fully alive at the moment. Full of wonder and curiosity.

We have to take control of the wheel and veer off-road.

That’s when living starts to happen.

Mud on the Tires2022-07-09T17:44:01-04:00

Believe It

If we believe in something wholeheartedly then we should have no fear in pursuing it to the max.

No fear of failure. Of rejection. Of loss.

If we feel it deep down in our core then we have to see it through one way or another.

In fact, we can’t lose either way.

On one hand, if we achieve what we wanted in the first place then we can reflect on the process it took to get there and the impact this will have on our lives going forward.

On the other, if it doesn’t work out, at least we know. I think “not knowing” is one of the things that hold us up from letting go of this idea. That thought of “can I really achieve this?”, “do they really want to be with me?, “can I overcome this obstacle?”

It eats at us.

So, at least if we know then we can change our mindset and alter our thinking. We don’t have to hold onto this idea any longer.

We can move on and move forward.

We can believe that there are better things up ahead for us.

We can be free.

Believe It2022-08-23T08:56:17-04:00

Co-Existence

Some people think it’s sexy to have a fancy car, lovely jewelry, or a big house.

But, others, think it’s sexy to talk for hours over a cup of coffee, enjoy a long walk on the beach, or find time to “unplug” and think.

Someone else’s happiness doesn’t have to be our happiness.

We have to stop worrying about what other people think about our choices and, at the same time, start accepting them for how they choose to live their lives.

Both of these can co-exist.

When they do, we all become happier because of it.

Co-Existence2022-06-14T20:55:37-04:00
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Catherine Lash

CATHERINE LASH

EPISODE 248: Creator and Facilitator of the Lead With WHY Workshop

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Episode 248 features Catherine Lash, Creator, and facilitator of the Lead With WHY Workshop.

Find Catherine Online:

Website: https://www.catherinelash.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/catherinelash/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catherinelash/

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About Catherine:

I envision a world where we are free of self-judgment, trust the process, and create for others.

I have over 20 years of lived experience as a solopreneur. During those years I based my self-worth on the financial success of my business. This not only limited the growth of my business it placed limits on all aspects of my life. It determined where I showed up, how I showed up, what I created and how I shared it.

Self-worth is measured by the value we give to others and it is driven by a clear WHY (purpose).

My journey to my WHY was the most valuable part of the process. I now measure my worth not by money or fame but by the value, I bring to others. I have a good sense of who I am at my natural best and know the actions I need to take when in a struggle.

I have created the Lead With WHY Workshop so others can immerse themselves in the process of finding their WHY, start creating value for others, and most importantly, feel worthy every step of the way.

My WHY: To inspirit self-leadership so we can live our best life.

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Catherine Lash2022-06-21T21:05:54-04:00

Sharp Left Turn

When many people are following the crowd one way, it’s okay to turn the other way down the dark alley and start on your own path.

Just because the masses are doing one thing doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for you.

Sharp Left Turn2022-06-01T20:43:23-04:00

Mythbusting

All of these questions have an answer.

Why do we argue?
Why do we fight?
Why do we turn a blind eye to someone in need?
Why do we make an unethical decision?
Why do we talk down to ourselves?
Why are we never enough?

It’s whether we have the courage to do the work to find out that ends up being the most important question of all.

When we make that commitment then we can tackle the situation head-on and be prepared to make the best of it. We can stop rationalizing after the fact.

Understanding ourselves is a challenging process but if we are willing to start from the beginning and take one step forward then we might be encouraged to keep going.

The benefits to a happier and positive life are astronomical but we have to be willing to start with the first question. “Am I ready?”

Mythbusting2022-05-12T20:07:20-04:00
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