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EPISODE 404: Author, “The 2-Hour Cocktail Party”

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Episode 404 features Nick Gray, Author of “The 2-Hour Cocktail Party”

Check out some great resources from Nick:

How to Introduce Two People via Email: Sample Scripts

9 Career Day Speech and Presentation Ideas

Party Times: Start, End, & Best Times

Icebreaker Name Tags: Examples and How to Do It RIGHT

How to Host an Event: Parties & Networking

Where to Throw a Party? Ideas and Venues for 2023

Icebreaker Activities for Your Next Event

Nick Gray’s Personal Website

Friendship Recession Website

7 Small Trade Show Booth Ideas for 2023

Find Nick Online:

Personal Website: https://nickgray.net/

Website: https://party.pro/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nickgraynews

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/nickgraynews/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nickgraynews/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nickgraynews

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nickgray

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/newfriend

About Nick:

Nick Gray is an entrepreneur and best-selling author living in Austin, Texas. He started and sold two successful companies: Flight Display Systems and Museum Hack. Nick is the author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party, a step-by-step handbook that teaches you how to build big relationships by hosting small gatherings. Over 75,000 people have watched his TEDx talk about why he hates most museums. He’s been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and New York Magazine called him a host of “culturally significant parties.”


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Nick Gray2023-12-19T18:24:59-04:00

Idea Factory

Ideas can come from anywhere.

It might not be from you.

Some of the best ideas come from people not entrenched in our day-to-day lives.

It’s the people on the edges who tend to come up with unique and creative ideas that help us turn a corner.

Talk to people you respect. Share what you are going through. Listen.

There is a good chance that conversation could be just the spark you need.

Idea Factory2023-09-30T15:36:55-04:00

A River Runs Through

There will be times of unease in any relationship where the raging rapids of emotions are flowing heavy and retreating seems like the only viable option. 

But there is another. 

You build a bridge over it. 

Fights are not about winning or losing. They’re not even about compromise. 

It’s about listening. 

It’s about accountability. 

It’s about understanding. 

They are a valuable place for growth if both people are willing to put their ego aside to stop rafting the rapid waters alone and simply build a bridge to connect. 

The river will run rapidly at many points during a relationship but the more bridges that are built the easier it’ll be to connect and communicate. 

The rapids can be scary but standing on the bridge lessens its impact.

A River Runs Through2023-09-26T21:00:08-04:00

Long Lasting

Just because we liked them doesn’t mean we should be with them.

There are many factors that have to line up for it to even get started, and then you have to have consistent growth as the days pass by.

What you should be focused on is how they treat you, how you treat them, do your values align, and is your life vision tracking.

You can’t force it.

You can’t coerce them.

Know what you are worth and show up with it every day.

And you trust they will, too.

The rest works out as it works out.

Long Lasting2023-09-26T20:35:33-04:00

Well Read

It can become relatively easy to read people if we focus on the decisions they make.

The words can throw us off course but it’s their actions that paint the brightest picture.

Eye-opening data can come from that observation if we are willing to accept what it’s telling us.

Well Read2023-08-04T16:00:33-04:00

They’re All Going To Laugh At You

Let them laugh.

Let them judge.

Let them gossip.

Let them dismiss.

Let them roll their eyes.

Let them go if they want to.

The people that matter don’t do any of this.

They are supportive and trustworthy.

They are caring and compassionate.

They are honest and direct.

Actions speak loudly.

Make sure you’re paying attention.

They’re All Going To Laugh At You2023-06-24T20:58:18-04:00

The Heartbreak Kid

Heartbreak is one of the worst human feelings we can experience.

It ravages us deep down at our core.

But we should be grateful we get to experience it at all. It means we had the highest of highs, with wonderful moments and pleasant memories.

We felt the full spectrum of emotions from heart-bliss to heart-break.

We’ve reached the pinnacle of our emotions.

It makes us want to get back there.

It makes us want to become better.

It makes us want to make others better.

This time didn’t work out but we have to give ourselves another crack at it.

Our heart needs to feel that bliss, one more time, even with the likelihood of heartbreak, again.

Maybe this time we’ll stay up on “cloud nine” a bit longer.

The Heartbreak Kid2023-05-26T10:51:23-04:00

Expert Mode

Hang around people that want to play the game of life in “expert mode.”

They are a great teammate to support your efforts.

They love solving obstacles so they can grow wiser.

They understand that failure is a part of the process.

They realize that there is some calculated risk in the unknown.

They possess an insane amount of energy to keep pushing through the suck.

We say we want easy but what we actually want is to be confident in our pursuits.

We gain more confidence by enduring challenging times.

Oftentimes, they are also the most memorable.

Find people that have a mutual interest to support each other and grow stronger together.

Those are the best teammates when it’s time to go into battle.

Expert Mode2023-05-21T14:14:11-04:00

Adventures Of A + K

I’ve been podcasting for 5 1/2 years with most of the interviews taking place virtually.

It has its benefits with the flexibility of scheduling around a full-time job but it can lose the connection of being in the presence of someone and feeling that energy.

So, when I get to meet my guests in person, either during the interview or after, it hits home for me.

I’m making a deeper connection than just an interview. It’s a bond we have for the rest of our lives.
Some people I’ll never speak to again.

Others become peers and we support one another.

And some become friends.

Recently, I got to meet Adam and Kathryn Fraser of the Adventures or A+K (super cool people!) who joined the Just Get Started Podcast in 2020.

They travel around in their Sprinter Van, visit National Parks and other local hot spots around the country, and document their journey through their blog and YouTube channel. (https://adventuresofaplusk.com/)

After all these years trading messages through a phone and talking over the internet it was refreshing to see them up close.

To give them a hug, share stories, and trade some laughs.

It’s what we all need.

It’s what we should seek out more often.

Adventures Of A + K2023-05-20T19:52:29-04:00

Collaboration Station

Don’t compare or compete, collaborate.

Comparison can make us depressed and feel like we’re not doing enough.

Competing can move us off course because we might have a different outcome goal than someone else.

But collaboration is where growth happens.

We surround ourselves with others who are eager and ambitious.

We discuss ideas and apply them to our situation.

We feed off of the energy.

We have accountability.

Don’t compare or compete.

Find people who are willing to collaborate.

It might give us the push we need to keep moving forward.

Collaboration Station2023-05-12T20:06:26-04:00

Connecting The Dots

It’s about connection.

Human beings connecting with other human beings.

I don’t care what type of relationship it is:

Parents and children

Husbands and wives

Doctors and patients




The list is endless but the result is the same.

We are emotional creatures and we need the energy that is created through connection.

We can’t live in a cave by ourselves.

We can’t shelter in and bang away on the keyboard.

We have to seek out these connections and create experiences from them.

Experiencing life with others is the most enjoyable way I’ve found to be human.

Connecting The Dots2023-05-11T20:18:00-04:00


The most cherished sports dynasties in the world are coveted because of a long run of winning outwardly.

But it’s the things that nobody talks about that makes them a dynasty.

Putting in the reps on the practice field, mostly on the fundamentals.

Supporting each other when players had an off night.

Trusting them when the game is on the line.

Never talking trash about their teammates.

Leaving them alone when they need it.

Being their biggest cheerleader.

Being a shoulder to cry on.

Relationships are like sports dynasties, in a way. The great ones have a long track record of “winning” because they are built on the foundation of trust, respect, support, and communication.

It’s not about perfection.

It’s about showing up time after time.


As a team.

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Figs O’Sullivan


EPISODE 332: Relationship Expert and Founder of Empathi.com

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Episode 332 features Figs O’Sullivan, a Licensed Psychotherapist, Emotionally-Focused Therapy practitioner, and commander-in-chief for the top-rated therapists in San Francisco.

Find Figs Online:

Website: empathi.com

Podcast: https://www.comeheretomepodcast.com

Linkedin: linkedin.com/fiachrafigs

Instagram: instagram.com/empathinow

Twitter: twitter.com/empathinow

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Empathinow

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empathinow

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@empathinow

Medium: https://medium.com/@figlet

About Figs:

Figs O’Sullivan is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Emotionally-Focused Therapy practitioner, and commander-in-chief for the top-rated therapists in San Francisco.

Born in Ireland to students of the human experience and now raising two children with his wife, Teale, in Hawaii, Figs has met as many different kinds of people as he has therapy methods. And yet, what he discovered about how humans heal was incredibly simple.

And often really, really difficult for people to achieve without guidance.


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Figs O’Sullivan2023-02-13T15:38:15-04:00

A New Hope

It’s hard not to be a “prisoner of the moment.”

We uncover neat experiences.
We discover new opportunities
We are wowed by new people.

Unfortunately, one of the more difficult things in life is to accept that these don’t always last.

That although we might create great memories, these moments pass by.

That shouldn’t make us sad. It should give us hope.

Hope that more will be around the next bend.
Hope that we will continue to recognize these as they present themselves.
Hope that as we grow so will the value of the experiences, opportunities, and people we encounter.

We could be sad that the moments are ending or we could be grateful that we had them at all.

We choose our path. What happens on it is sometimes out of our control.

All we can do is embrace the moments that come our way because we never know how long we have them.

A New Hope2022-12-28T17:30:43-04:00

Opposites Do Not Attract

This cliche needs to be put to bed.

Sure, people with different personality traits, musical tastes, hobbies, and social skills get together all the time. Many of them become happy in the long term.

When we look from the outside and think they are “opposite” it takes our focus off what matters most.

They have aligned values.
They live by their virtues.
They share a vision.

They may be interesting and intriguing and have a different lens they look at the world through. That doesn’t necessarily mean they are “opposites”.

If anything, they are more alike than they give themselves credit for.

Opposites Do Not Attract2022-12-26T14:02:38-04:00

Goodbye For Now

Goodbye doesn’t always mean forever.

It might be for a season or two.

For the cosmos to align again.

To see if it’s truly meant to be.

The goodbye isn’t the hard part as much as us forgetting the person when they’re gone.

If we’ve kept them alive in our hearts we can pick back up where we left off when we see them again.

Goodbye doesn’t always mean forever if we are willing to keep the flame burning.

Time passes but everlasting love feels like it hasn’t aged at all.

Goodbye For Now2022-12-13T21:17:13-04:00

Free Lunch

Things that are free are mostly taken for granted.

Our mind.

Our body.

Our relationships.

We only realize how important they are when they get taken from us.

Until we can no longer have them in the same capacity as before.

Sometimes the most priceless things in the world don’t cost a thing.

Free Lunch2022-12-10T17:12:20-04:00
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Rob Lawless

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Episode 308 features the Creator of Robs10kFriends, Rob Lawless.

Find Rob Online:

Website: www.robs10kfriends.com

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rob-lawless-robs10kfriends/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robs10kfriends/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robs10kfriends

About Rob:

On a mission to spend 1 hour, 1:1, with 10,000 different people, Rob Lawless has met over 5,200 people from ~90 countries in the last 7 years.

He’s shared every one of their stories to his Instagram, @robs10kfriends, catching the attention of media like On Air with Ryan Seacrest, the Kelly Clarkson Show, and the TODAY Show.

Meeting everyone from CEOs to celebrities to students to everyday people who’ve overcome extreme circumstances, he’s also inspired others to go on their own journeys of connection in Boston, Toronto, Germany, India, and Ethiopia.

Since taking his project full-time in July of 2016, he’s found financial stability through speaking at universities, companies, and conferences, and going forward hopes to become a professor of connection, helping students learn from each other rather than a textbook!


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Rob Lawless2022-09-28T17:50:30-04:00

Combining Resources

The best relationships in life have one clear thing in common.

There is a complimentary toolset that each person brings on the journey.

No one person is better than the other. Sometimes the tools one person has will be used and other times it’ll be the opposite. Oftentimes, the tools will work together to create something useful and generous.

If we think about relationships this way and work to keep them balanced then we’ll be better served as we deepen the connection and forge ahead.

We can certainly take our toolset and go along the journey alone but that doesn’t appear to make for the most fun and exciting adventure.

Those moments need to be shared and we should strive often to seek out those people to share them with.

It’ll make the trip that much more enjoyable.

Combining Resources2022-10-09T20:10:22-04:00

A Moment In Time

How incredible is life?

In an instant, without any warning, our life can be altered in the most magical way by the most magical people.

People that, just a few seconds ago, didn’t exist to us. We had no idea who they were.

But, when we felt their energy, we knew it was something special.

We knew our life had changed forever.

We never know when it might happen but it’s incredible when it does.

We should all be grateful for those moments and look out for them more often.

Because they end up shaping the rest of our lives in a profound way.

A Moment In Time2022-09-20T19:50:58-04:00

Soul Mates

Surround ourselves with people who when we look in their eyes there is a fire that projects back into our soul.

It may sound hokey but we’ve all experienced it at some point in our lives. There is this energy, this aura, this force that surrounds them. We know it’s different than most people we encounter.

When we find these people we have to embrace them and bring them into our circle.

We need that energy as we can’t do life alone.

Community is a vital part of a happy life and we shouldn’t want it any other way.

Soul Mates2022-09-10T15:48:42-04:00

Blinders On

The cataclysmic discovery that can change the course of our life is the realization that almost nobody is thinking about us almost all of the time.

At first, it appears devastating until we realize that this is the same for everyone.

When this “aha” moment appears it begins to free us of the shackles that hold us into place and don’t allow us to start.

Don’t worry, there will be plenty of judgment, critiques, and snickers. We’ll get an earful from time to time for being different.

But it’s short-lived. Those people have other things that will distract them soon enough.

So press on. Move forward. Do you.

Forget what the naysayers are spouting.

They’re barely paying attention in the first place.

Blinders On2022-08-18T19:05:06-04:00

Cordial Conversations

Disagreeing is not toxic in a relationship.

Being unwilling to listen to a different perspective is.

If we are scared to have a direct conversation with someone over something that we care about or that is bothering us then we should question the strength of our relationship with them.

Relationships are hard. Period.

Having relationships with people where there is open and honest communication is of utmost importance.

It’s not that all of the conversations are positive it’s that they are filled with respect and cordialness that whatever issues we are having we will get past them together.

Life is too short to be in bad relationships.

Let’s make that something we are unwilling to compromise on.

Cordial Conversations2022-10-02T17:21:18-04:00
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Episode 275 features Jon Vroman, Founder of Front Row Dads, which has become a diverse group of 230 dads from 12 different countries who share a common bond of choosing to put family first as they grow their businesses.

During the episode, Jon mentions a great resource to pick us is 15 Commitments to Conscious Leadership by Jim Dethmer: Buy it here

Find Jon Online:

Website: https://frontrowdads.com/

Front Row Dads Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/front-row-dads-family-men-with-businesses/id1344850656?mt=2

About Jon:

Jon Vroman founded Front Row Dads because he wanted to win at home and not just at work.

Over the last 5 years, Front Row Dads has become a diverse group of 230 dads from 12 different countries who share a common bond of choosing to put family first as they grow their businesses.

The mission of Front Row Dads is to help men deepen their connection with their children and build a family legacy that they’re proud of.

Outside of the podcast, live events, and online summits, FRD has a highly engaged membership that supports each dad in aligning with his family values and staying committed to the most important people in his life.

Jon has been featured on Today Show and Inc.com for his work in helping others “Live Life In The Front Row™”. He’s been requested to speak for the US Navy, Vitamix, Dove, Keller Williams Realty, Entrepreneurs Organization, and many others.

As the author of the #1 bestselling book, The Front Row Factor, he shares inspiring stories, compelling science, and life strategies that challenge you to explore your values, establish priorities and reconnect to a higher purpose and deeper meaning within your life.

In 2005, Jon founded FrontRowFoundation.org, a charity that helps individuals who are braving life-threatening illnesses, to experience the event of their dreams, from the front row.


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Jon Vroman2022-08-27T12:38:16-04:00

Bold Strategy

We get so caught up with big and bold. Be seen, be heard, be cheered.

But it’s actually the moments that most people don’t witness that are the most important to a happy life.

It’s reading a book to your kids and giving them a hug and kiss goodnight.

It’s a “how are you doing today?” with a significant other that turns into a long conversation.

It’s being able to sit with ourselves and be stress-free.

Those moments take up the majority of our lives. Those simple, “uneventful” moments almost get forgotten because they are routine.

Maybe we should consider why they are that way and embrace them more. They matter way more than any glorious achievement does.

When we lose people close to us, rarely do we remember their greatest achievements. We remember the small stuff, the little quirks, and the subtle nuance.

We remember the mundane.

Those become the most important memories.

The ones we often take for granted.

Bold Strategy2022-07-13T21:03:04-04:00

Energy Field

We never know when new people are going to enter our world. Think of close friends, a mentor, maybe a spouse or significant other.

There was one day we never knew who they were. We didn’t know we needed them. Until we felt that spark of energy.

We’ve all felt it. We’ve all had it. We all want to feel it again.

We’re not sure what it is exactly. We can’t explain it. But that shared energy field is around us. It pulls us in. We can’t resist. We can’t look away.

It’s special because we all meet thousands of people throughout our lives. But only a few stand out above the rest.

Why are there a select few that take up a majority of our headspace?
Why are there only so many that we invest time in?
What is it about them that’s so special?

When we find that connection it’s important to remember that we have to work at keeping it up. Our environment changes things. Life events change things. Things won’t always be how they’ve been.

If that connection is valuable then we must keep working to make it stay strong.

We must keep finding the time.
We must keep showing up.
We must keep putting energy into it.

Because it won’t fuel itself.

Energy Field2022-05-12T20:09:38-04:00

Seasonal Allergies

Change is constant and change will happen.

We are either a part of that change or we are fighting against it.

Our body changes as we age but if we’ve been focusing on fitness and healthy eating, that change is quite delayed. If we haven’t, we start to feel those effects compound over time. Building healthy habits early on and sticking with them help form a foundation for us to live each day by.

When we go through a breakup or loss, that change is hard, but if we’ve been focusing on our self-reflection inward then we gain a different perspective on the situation. We start to be comfortable with who we are and that others compliment us. They do not define us. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck. It can just suck much less.

When we lose a job, the same thing happens. If we rely on this job so much to keep up our lifestyle and identity then when it ends we are broken. It’s because we haven’t put in the work to recognize our strengths and give ourselves room to maneuver if need be.

We may not always be in control. We can’t control aging, we can’t control if someone breaks up with us, and we can’t control a job loss or a myriad of other life events.

But we can control if we are prepared for them.
We can control if we’ve taken proper measures to mitigate increased risk or pain.
We can control if we are willing to learn from each experience.

It starts by gaining better self-awareness. It starts by asking ourselves simple questions.

What really makes us happy?
Is this the right “fit”?
Do we need that new “toy”?
Are we okay if this doesn’t go our way?
Do we feel we have a great support system?

Asking simple questions about the foundations of our life offers a glimpse into the crystal ball and whether those will crack under more pressure or hold us upright to weather the storm.

Strong foundations lay the groundwork to build upon and allow us to take chances and be okay if it doesn’t work out.

We need to ask ourselves, today, what is our foundation built on, and are we confident it can hold up to the fiercest storm we might encounter?

Seasonal Allergies2022-04-28T17:25:24-04:00

The Happiest Place On Earth

As we think back about our best memories, they are always simple and we are normally surrounded by others.

I think about the moment I found out we were having a baby.
I think about the first moment I held him.
I think about playing golf with my son.
I think about falling in love.
I think about pick-up football games with my friends.
I think about sitting in my grandmother’s dining area and having a conversation with her.
I think about playing video games with my brother.
I think about my first CrossFit competition and being around my team.

I think about all of these memories and so many more and what they might have in common.

We need to go back to 1st Principles thinking. Break down our finest memories and happiest moments. What are the simple building blocks that made them what they are?

  • Love
  • Belonging
  • Energy
  • Freedom
  • Routines
  • Communication

These are some things that come to mind.

If we can do things that hit one or more of these buckets then we are going to have the opportunity to create many happy memories and build an unbelievable life for ourselves and the people around us.

Seek to do more of those things and happiness will inevitably follow.

The Happiest Place On Earth2022-07-17T09:09:34-04:00

Kid N Play

Let’s not kid ourselves, people tell us exactly how they feel, one way or another, whether that’s a response by phone, a text message, body language, responsiveness, or a lack of communication.

Whether good or bad, people are telling us and we just have to be paying attention to the signal and block out the noise.

From there, we can get a good sense of where we stand in the relationship and the priority level they are giving to our situation.

We can’t blame anyone but ourselves if we are not tuned in and observing.

Generally, the signs are very glaring from afar.

Kid N Play2022-02-13T16:30:27-04:00

A Smile Can Go Miles

I tell my son to “Make someone smile today” when I drop him off at school.

The easiest way to enact a positive change in our life is to positively change someone else’s life.

A smile can have ripple effects far greater than we know.

Who are you going to make smile today?

A Smile Can Go Miles2022-02-09T21:47:08-04:00

Refocus Our Energy

Rejection hurts because we believe everyone should like us, want to be with us, or want to do business with us.

It doesn’t work that way. Rejection teaches us more about the people who are right for us than the people who are not.

Most people won’t want to give us the time of day. So focus on the ones who do.

Focus on the ones who show up when least expected. Focus on the ones who support you. Focus on the ones who make the effort.

There is only so much time in the day.

If someone is willing to take some time out of theirs and spend it on you then that’s a special thing.

Refocus Our Energy2022-01-14T16:29:29-04:00

Separation Anxiety

It’s been 3 years since my wife and I got divorced. Funny how that much time has passed. Funny to think what we could’ve changed to make it work.

A lot of things for sure.

But, then again, it was probably the right decision. We were both unhappy.

Why stay in something that you are “lukewarm” about, at best?

But that’s what we do as humans. We sort of just settle in for what feels comfortable. We do whatever we can to hold the walls up around us in order to eliminate the abrupt pain of it all caving in at once.

We fail to recognize that having the walls cave in can allow us to rebuild a stronger foundation from the ground up. We can create a more solid structure that is long-lasting.

It doesn’t mean we have to run from every bad situation but it could mean that we have to take a hard look inward on why this is happening in the first place.

What have we done to get here? What have we done to cause this situation? What has been out of our control? How can we change for the better?

Change is really hard. I remember the time between getting “separated” and then actually leaving the house we built together. Those 5 weeks transitioning to leave the house and officially, by legal standards, become separated were brutal.

I cried a lot.
I was heartbroken.
I was depressed.
I was sad.

But then, I wasn’t.

Sure, I can be sad that we weren’t madly in love like many years prior. I can be sad that our son has to be a part of a co-parenting situation. I can be sad that the happy moments we had together would be clouded by this decision we made.

But that’s all a matter of perspective. I had the choice to be happy or sad.

So I chose to be happy.

Everything ends at some point. That’s the rub of life. It all eventually ends. Our situation ended just a bit more abruptly than originally planned. Our story just took a different direction down the wandering path.

But, I’m happy I had those moments with her. I was madly in love, and I know she was, too.

I’m happy my son gets to spend time with each of us individually and grow a stronger bond. He gets to grow up going through some shit. That’s only going to make him more resilient.

I’m happy with all those moments of happiness, laughter, and fun we had together. We had some great times. But I’m also happy for the less-than-desirable moments, too. Because, as I reflect, it’s made me grow as a person and be a better version of myself. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to go through hard times to figure that stuff out.

Life is never easy but if I’ve learned anything it’s that negativity and pessimism almost get you nowhere. I’m sure someone can tell me there is some utility to it but not much that I’ve seen.

If we can take every situation, no matter how dire, and work our way to see the sunshine and rainbows then we have a much better chance of finding the happiness inside ourselves and using that as fuel to power us forward.

It’s hard to get there when we think the world is always giving us a bad hand to play.

Once we accept that we may not have played the hand correctly then it can make it much easier to respect the outcome and move on.

It doesn’t mean we forget about the past as those moments and experiences helped define who we are, good or bad. But it gives us the opportunity to use those moments and learn from them.

We have the opportunity to start anew. Not from square one but from much farther ahead because of the wealth of knowledge we’ve gained through all of it.

Be open to change. Be receptive to it. Embrace it.

It’s all a matter of perspective.

Separation Anxiety2022-02-12T22:23:31-04:00

Heartwarming Surprise

Getting a surprise text from an old friend or a random gift sent to us makes us feel so good. We get a smile on our faces and we’re grateful that there are people out there thinking about us.

Who could we spin that idea around on today? Who haven’t we conversed within many months or years that we could send a text or message saying we are thinking about them?

It can be the smallest gesture but those can go a long way to make people feel better.

Think of 1-2 people today and take a proactive approach to message them. Maybe it’s a quick hello back, maybe it turns into a longer conversation, maybe it happens to lead to an actual phone call.

Who knows?

The most important part is the first message. The one that catches them off guard. The one that warms their heart knowing that there are people out there thinking about them, too.

Heartwarming Surprise2022-06-28T19:40:20-04:00

The Sands Of Time

The people we connect with tell a lot about who we are as a person.

Do they make us laugh, think, or play? What do we tolerate? What concessions do we make despite red flags? Where do we draw our lines?

“We are the average of the five people that we spend the most time with”, as the saying goes.

What are the trade-offs we make for comfort? Who won’t we trade-off because we are unwilling to have a difficult conversation with? Who do we really want in our circle but are afraid to ask?

We need to continue to audit our connections and tighten the nuts and bolts around who we enjoy spending the most time being around.

Who makes us our happiest selves?

Then pour more of the sands of time into those buckets of people.

Choose wisely, there’s only so much to go around.

The Sands Of Time2022-01-03T21:20:26-04:00

Get It In Writing

Eyewitness accounts and memory recognition can be some of the foggiest and most unreliable pieces of information when time elapses.

When in doubt, get everything on “paper” and have it confirmed.

Business contracts, project timelines, payment agreements, etc.

We become too nice and don’t want to ask for these things because we feel it’ll add friction to the relationship or slow the process down.

What we fail to recognize, and this is true for other things as well, is that delayed gratification is more valuable in the long run than the initial warm and fuzzy feeling of a “handshake” agreement.

Inevitably, there will be a time when that contract, email chain, or otherwise needs to be brought back into focus. It becomes much less stressful to utilize those agreed-upon terms than the perceived frustrations or difficult conversations we’d have to have upfront.

Write everything down and get everyone to agree with upfront on the terms so that there are no question marks when a disagreement ensues. That is the worst time to try to agree on a course of action or confirm what we remembered we discussed before.

Often, everyone’s memory starts to get a little fuzzy.

Get It In Writing2022-06-17T09:15:39-04:00
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EPISODE 186: High-Performance Coach | Author, Name That Mouse: Because the Elephant Isn’t The Only Animal In The Room

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Episode 186 brings back former guest David Wood (episode 144) to discuss his new book, “Name That Mouse: Because The Elephant Isn’t The Only Animal In the Room”.

Learn More About The Book: https://focus.ceo/mouse/

David has a special gift for all of the listeners: www.myfocusgift.com

Find David Online:

Website: http://focus.ceo/

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About David:

After his life as a consulting actuary to Fortune 100 Companies, David built the world’s largest coaching business, becoming #1 on Google for “life coaching.”

Discovering that Shiny-Object-Syndrome is an epidemic among high performers, David coaches rock-star business owners to double revenue, achieve more in less time, and be a more extraordinary entrepreneur, partner, parent, and leader.


If you enjoyed this interview you may also like my first interview with David on the Just Get Started Podcast –David Wood on Episode #144

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Take The Carpool Lane

There are definitely times we need to be alone. Sometimes we need a breather from everyone else. Disconnecting from the world can be healthy for our mental state.

But, we shouldn’t hang out there too long. There are tremendous benefits from being around people who are on our side and support us. We all strive for belonging and we benefit from being able to converse with people that can listen and help us when we need it. 

But, ultimately, we have to take the leap and ask for that help because most people may not know that we need it. That can be the hardest thing to do. Asking, reaching out a hand, being vulnerable. We think it makes us look weak but it can be one of the most courageous things we can do. 

Next time we are scared, helpless, or feeling off a bit we have to try and take a leap of faith and be courageous. Phone a friend. Ask for help. It’s amazing how quickly they’ll jump to be there for us.

In these circumstances, the opportunities that can come from working as a team far outweigh anything we can do alone.

Take The Carpool Lane2021-09-27T09:08:39-04:00

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

We hear slogans like “Taste the feeling”, “That’s what I like”, “They’re Gr-r-reat” and hundreds of other slogans in marketing ads across the world.

But, we can all agree, none of these products as well as a host of others are very healthy. So while their slogans may be clever and get us thinking and feeling a certain way, the results paint a vastly different picture. What we get by consuming these products is far different than the message we receive.

We have to keep this in mind as we build new relationships. In early encounters, people may talk a certain way and present a picture of themselves that differs from what our intuition is telling us. Dig deeper and look at the actions versus the words coming out of their mouth.

How are they treating us and others? Does their story add up or are there holes? Are they playing games?

We all try to make a memorable first impression but some people can be deceptive in their approach. Be sure to look behind the curtain and not always take the words someone is saying as fact. They may be hiding something.

They may be selling us a brand that is quite different than the product we end up receiving.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words2021-09-21T11:36:50-04:00

The Sound of Support

We bring people into our lives for various reasons. As time passes and growth happens there may be people that end up not being appropriate to share our time with anymore.

Sometimes it is easy to discover the destructive ones but often times we are incapable or unwilling to see when the writing is on the wall.

As relationships progress it’s often important to ask questions about them.

Questions such as:

  • Do they reach out to me consistently or only when they are lonely or need something?
  • Can they share advice and insight in a constructive manner or are they always talking down to me?
  • Do they talk about themselves or their problems constantly and rarely ask how I am doing?
  • Are they present in my time of need or only when convenient for them?

There is only so much time to go around and spending more time with fewer people might not be a bad philosophy as support systems become more important to get us through the hard times.
Deep not wide is an approach to consider in these situations.

As the saying goes, “We are the average of the five people we spend our most time with”.

Choose people that fill up your cup and you theirs. Life is too short for the alternative.

The Sound of Support2021-07-11T20:58:34-04:00


Depreciation – a reduction in the value of an asset with the passage of time, due in particular to wear and tear.

We think about depreciation as assets like our cars losing value over time but we might consider this with our relationships as well so they don’t do the same.

Our best relationships continue to grow and evolve as long as we are putting the right time into fostering that relationship. They become more valuable and lead us to be happier in them.

If we neglect them then it’s almost certain it will lose its luster and the flame will go out.

Times change and people change. We change. If we are not continuing to communicate with our partner, family, friend, colleague, etc on some sort of regular cadence and make an effort to make sure the relationship is intact then there is a good chance it will slowly deteriorate without us even knowing it.

Then, we get to a spot where we all have probably been, there is no value left in the relationship to make it worthwhile to continue.
Before we ever get to that point we should consider asking ourselves this question occasionally, “How am I committing to this relationship and making it valuable to the other person”?

Although we can’t control the effort the other person puts into the relationship, at least we can be confident that we’ve given it our all and made it clear that we wanted to be in it for the long haul.


Celebrate The Wins

This month I would be celebrating my 10 year wedding anniversary. 

But we didn’t make it much past year 7. 

In a strange way, I still celebrate that day and spend time thinking about the past. 

The good times and the bad. The ups and the downs. The lessons I wish I knew then but only learned much later. 

The outcome may not have changed. Different people with different values may not have worked out if we played it back 100 different ways. 

And that’s why I reflect. 

It’s okay that it didn’t work out. 

I still cherish the time we had together. The early days were really fun. I was in love and I know she was, too. We’ll always have that time etched in the archives of our story. 

It was a big part of my journey to get where I am today. I’m more grateful than heartbroken. 

I don’t look at divorce as a failure. In fact, it could be considered a win. We both have the chance to learn and change. We both have the chance to explore new horizons we might not have ventured into. We both can use the past as a lesson to help in the future. 

The story of “us” looks different than it did 10 years ago and just because it might not have the fairytale ending doesn’t mean there can’t be a silver lining to it all. 

So, cheers to whatever you are celebrating that has been a big chapter in the story of your life!

Celebrate The Wins2022-03-13T15:27:03-04:00
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Cora Boyd

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Had a great interview with Dating Coach Cora Boyd on the latest installment of the Just Get Started Podcast. I got in touch with Cora through the Next Gen Community and it was neat to talk with someone running something different than a tech or product company to change things up on the Podcast. I think you all will get a lot out of this episode and really enjoy the dialogue!

Find Cora Online:

Website – http://coraboydcoaching.com

Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/cobraboyxox/

About Cora:

  • I lived abroad in Europe and Latin America for several years, which was monumental for developing my interpersonal and cross-cultural communications skills.

  • I’m fluent in Spanish.

  • I have personally conducted interviews about dating with over five hundred people. 

  • I’m originally from Washington, DC, I spent my formatives years in New Orleans, and I’m now based in Seattle. I coach in-person clients in Seattle and phone clients all over the world. 

  • I moonlight as a comedy and burlesque performer.

  • I spent a year studying the psychology of happiness under Tal Ben Shahar, creator of Harvard’s most popular course in history. 

  • I worked for two years as a top matchmaker for a national matchmaking firm founded by Elle Magazine’s E. Jean Carroll (author of the world’s longest running advice column) through Stanford’s StartX accelerator.  

  • I studied liberal arts and psychology at Tulane University in New Orleans, and graduated magna cum laude with top honors. 

  • I regularly write thought pieces on love, sex, and dating for various publications. 


If you enjoyed this interview you may also like my Just Get Started Podcast Interview with Chau Mui, Founder of Ciaooo! Magazine.

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Cora Boyd2020-01-30T12:52:12-04:00
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