There are a lot of varying factors that go into the accomplishments of every successful person.
Hard work is a constant across all of their stories.
Tiger Woods wasn’t born to be a great golfer, he worked his ass off.
Dave Chappelle wasn’t born to be a great comedian, he worked his ass off.
Taylor Swift wasn’t born to be a great musician, she worked her ass off.
Elon Musk wasn’t born to be a great entrepreneur, he worked his ass off.
We’re not born with anything.
We must put in the work.
That’s one of the few things we can control to live a better life.
There’s a reason we call consistent maintenance on our vehicles “routine” or “preventive”. It’s so that we don’t go without checking in and understanding where it needs some work before it breaks down completely.
How honest are we with ourselves about our own “routine maintenance”?
Do we prioritize this at all?
We are scattered each day with no consistent schedule
We prioritize others before prioritizing ourselves
Are always feeling like we are behind
Are never satisfied with the results.
Then it might be time for a check-in.
Asking ourselves questions like:
Why are we not holding ourselves accountable for specific scheduling of activity, sleep, etc?
Why are we unwilling to give ourselves time before we let others control it?
Why does this always get chopped in favor of other “priorities”?
Why do we do so much and feel it’s not enough?
Are most of these tasks even important to us?
We have to prioritize the “check-in” and it can’t be once a year like our annual physical.
It needs to be constant. It needs to become routine.
Otherwise, we have gotten so out of whack that we aren’t sure where to begin.
Get ahead of it.
Make it a routine practice.
We’ll prevent a complete breakdown and save ourselves a lot of heartache in the process.
I want to talk about practice. Not the game, not the game we all love but practice.
Practice can be anything preparing us for the “game”. Thinking, reading, studying, and testing.
Trying to imagine situations and getting ahead of them.
In practice, we break down a specific area and piece them together. We work on one aspect hard and then move on to another. There are also times when practice becomes a simulation of sorts. A run-through of an event that hasn’t taken place.
In the game, far too often we “wing it”. We show up unprepared for the conversations or the action we need to perform.
We think that just being there is enough. It’s not.
Being thoughtful about where we want to go can be the guidebook to prepare us for that journey. It can influence the things we do leading up to and during any situation.
But we have to be willing to put in the work. That’s how we make things feel fluid and easy. It’s all the hours of preparation prior to the game.
That preparation sets us up for success. That leads us to make better decisions at the moment.
Because we’ve already been preparing long before the moment arrived.
We’re Talking About PracticeBrian Ondrako2022-10-16T17:00:38-04:00
Even the most accomplished athletes in the world stumble, drop passes, hit an errant tee shot, and look foolish from time to time.
We can’t expect to always “be on”.
It’s normally when our ego gets the best of us that the humble train rolls into the station.
Sure, we have moments of greatness but they shouldn’t be thought of as a given. We have to work and practice to keep our skills sharp and not get too cocky that we reached some pinnacle and are up there for good.
That’s never the case.
We have to be focused on continuing to do the little things. The blocking and tackling. The accessory work. The fundamentals. That keeps us fresh and in the “maintenance mode” to pull it out whenever we need it.
We can’t take a play off. We have to be on call and give each opportunity our best effort otherwise we’ll strike out badly. And not because we just failed with a great attempt but because we took our eye off the ball thinking we are already going to score.
Changing the way our brain processes and learns things can be impactful on our growth and one of the best ways to get in this state is by being a beginner learner. It’s by getting well outside our comfort zone and having to rely on parts of the brain that we might not utilize as much. As we all know, most days we turn on “autopilot” and coast with our normal routines.
If we want to try and be a beginner learner again but don’t know where to start, try to do some things tomorrow with our least dominant hand.
Brush our teeth, eat our food, tie our shoes. There is a myriad of things we do all day every day and don’t even consider the alternatives.
By trying this, we have to slow down and think about the process and steps to completion by using our opposite hand. It activates a different part of our brain and it shakes us a bit because it’s so foreign.
But, it allows us to see a different perspective and start to map out new ways to perform common tasks.
Making what is normally easy for us hard can help trigger that part of the brain that we might have to use in situations down the road and it allows us to practice recognizing new patterns and getting more comfortable with situations that we don’t recognize.
That’s a good thing. That’s how we grow to think differently than we do today.
That’s how we become a better version of ourselves tomorrow.
Kids learn repeatable patterns through practice and experiences. Their characteristics, habits, skill development, and values are shaped by these experiences.
It’s done through reading and imagining, through play, through creating, and through testing.
One of the neat things as you observe this is there are minimal to no instructions. Kids correct course most of the time and in some cases learn the hard way when they don’t. Those life lessons stick with us forever and sometimes we even have the scars to remind us.
But rarely, if ever, do they learn by being told something. When it comes to deep learning, we need to let them experience it themselves, think openly, and be challenged.
The best teachers in the world do this not by giving the answers but by asking the right questions.
The next time your child asks a question you know the answer to don’t be in such a hurry to answer it. Instead, return serve with a simple question like “What do you think?” or “Why do you think it’s like that?” or anything around this questioning.
Although it may be simple to you, watch their brain rev up as they try to come up with an answer.
You’ll be amazed by the imagination they have through the answers they come up with and they might shock you with their perspective.
Who knows, It might open up additional questions and dialogue that might fuel their passion and spark their curiosity to explore more.
In the end, that’s the fun part of learning anyways.