Episode 151 features Anna Parker-Naples, a British international award-winning Entrepreneur and host of the Top 1% global show Entrepreneurs Get Visible Podcast.
Anna Parker-Naples is a Hollywood award-winning audio expert, leading podcast launch expert, and online business mentor. Bestselling author of ‘Podcast with Impact’ and ‘Get Visible’, Anna helps entrepreneurs to amplify their message and stand out from the crowd. She is a British international award-winning Entrepreneur and host of the Top 1% global show Entrepreneurs Get Visible Podcast.
Episode 129 features the Founders of Girls Mentorship LLC, Jill Petersen, and Mary Frances and they share their story of why they are on a mission to help teenage girls with mentorship to help guide them on a path to happiness.
Jill Petersen is an experienced coach and former leader at lululemon for nearly a decade. Her superpower lies within connecting and building trust quickly to overcome self-doubt and help people find their greatness. Jill holds a B.A. in Interdisciplinary Studies (Communication) and (Mass Communication) from Arizona State University, as well as receiving a certificate in Mindfulness Leadership. She is Yoga Alliance, a 200-hour certified yoga and mindfulness teacher. Jill is the Co-Founder of Girls Mentorship and has experienced firsthand the importance of a mind, body, and soul approach to both everyday wellness and the achievement of accomplishing goals. She believes, “Uncommon results begin with an uncommon mindset.” She gets excited about the opportunity to make an impact on girls and help them pair their feelings work for them, not against them.
Mary Frances is an avid community supporter, adult cheerleader, experienced coach, and leader. Part of her joy as a mentor is not just being the one who leads but also having the ability to raise others up in order to live into their own leadership potential. She has a BS from ASU in Exercise and Wellness as well as an MBA in the school of hard knocks. She officially started her entrepreneurship journey as a certified Crossfit L2 coach and gym owner where she worked with hundreds of kids, teens, and adults not only teaching them the basics of fitness but also the skills of habit formation, community, mental toughness, personal responsibility, goal setting, and leadership. Mary is the Co-Founder of Girls Mentorship and is also an H-O-T leader: Humble, Open, and Transparent sharing about her tumultuous past; dealing with family trauma, abuse, CPS, and a broken home all of which has led to a strong desire to want to break the mold and assist others in doing the same.
We all are looking, at times, for a second opinion to confirm the decision we are making is the correct one. It’s hard to go with intuition exclusively on every decision and we’ve been told our entire lives to look for mentors and individuals that can help guide us to the next phase of our growth.
Mentors are vital. But there is a problem.
“Advice givers” are everywhere.
You must make sure you are seeking out the right ones.
I have started to think about this more recently because I’ve been getting out to the golf course with my son and having the opportunity to become a coach once again. I was a PGA Teaching Professional for many years and worked with golfers of all ages and skill levels. I had a certain style to me that was unique and I related to my students and was able to help them get better, not just physically but mentally. Although I left the golf industry all together several years ago, the coach in me and my knowledge of the game didn’t.
Maybe that is why it pains me when I overhear someone on the range driving giving advice to another person. I can tell very quickly by watching one swing whether they are a good enough player to even understand proper swing mechanics or sequence one needs in the golf swing. Also, the verbiage and amount of information is another tale altogether. Generally, the player they are “instructing” gets frustrated and is most likely going to have that poor thought in their head for a while leading to more harm than good.
This happens a lot in all areas of life, and we’ve all been there. We all want to seek out advice but figuring out on your own is far better than being led down the wrong path when the path is very unclear. When it comes to more difficult decisions you certainly need to have your intuition be a guide, but it’s also vital to have people that you trust and that have been down that road before share their insights to help you navigate a decision more clearly. And that is why mentorship is so important. Having a couple of mentors or coaches to lean on for critical advice can save a ton of time and money and get you in the right headspace.
That is why it’s important to choose advice wisely. But how do you do that?
I’ll share a couple of questions I like to ask myself prior to getting a mentor or seeking advice from someone I know.
Does the person giving the advice have the domain knowledge to be giving this advice?
In the time I have known them, have they been consistent in their approach and actions?
Are they available to be able to mentor me?
Do I trust them without any doubt?
Will they provide me honest constructive feedback or sugar-coat to avoid hurting feelings (look at #2 to help)
Do I walk away from conversations with them feeling confident and energized or confused and unsure?
These are some of the things I like to consider in the process.
As I said, I believe most of the decisions we make on a daily basis need no advice from anyone. We don’t have to post a question on Facebook or text, 10 friends, because the reality is that we are going to be biased and go with the decision in line with our thinking anyways. We’re human, It’s our nature.
But mentors should be pushing us to think differently and expose our “weak-minded” thoughts that plague us in decision making in order to help us grow stronger.
I believe everyone needs at least one mentor in their life at all times, sometimes more than one. I have a couple of people right now that are mentors to me and they been tremendous in their guidance. I’ve gotten lucky I guess but I’ve also used the questions above to vet them well prior to letting them into that deep relationship with me.
If you need any more guidance on this please reach out, but there are probably a few people you can already see as possible mentors in your life. Make sure they pass your sniff test, and after you’ve done a full vetting, remember to not overthink it and go with your gut if you feel they’d be a great person to lean on.