Thinking In Decades

What I thought a fulfilled life should look like in 2010:

  • Get married
  • Have a couple of kids
  • Watch sports and relax
  • Play golf on the weekends
  • Attend kids’ sporting events
  • Be employed and make some money

What I’ve discovered it looks like for me:

  • Find a life partner
  • Become financially free
  • Prioritize health and family
  • Live in the present moment
  • Build an amazing relationship with my son
  • Create the life I want instead of waiting for it to happen

Life changes. Circumstances change. Priorities change.

The goalposts always shift.

We should work each day to learn more about ourselves, our needs and wants, and where we get meaning and energy.

When we are secure with who we are we can move with the shifting winds instead of fighting against them

Thinking In Decades2023-08-06T12:38:03-04:00

The Waiting Game

There is no timeline.

Stop beating yourself up if you haven’t:

  • Gotten traction yet
  • Gotten that promotion/raise
  • Met that significant other
  • Found your purpose
  • Figured it all out

The journey is the fun part. If it was easy would you really want to sign up for it? It’d get boring rather quickly.

Enjoy the process of discovering yourself and creating new opportunities by doing.

When it happens it’ll happen.

Stop hurrying.

You can’t force it.

The Waiting Game2022-12-26T14:27:56-04:00

Fulfillment Center

We are happier more often when we’ve found fulfillment in life.

When we have a responsibility or purpose.

When we have a grasp on things.

How do we find fulfillment?

Start with these questions…

What activities make me feel the most alive?
When I need energy I ____?
When I lose track of time hanging out, the qualities those people possess the most are ____?
When I do ____ I normally don’t feel as good about myself?
I get most excited when I do ____?

The answers to these bring us closer to understanding ourselves.

Closer to accepting reality.

Closer to finding clarity.

Self-awareness becomes the accountability mirror we need to be staring into each day.

Fulfillment Center2022-12-13T20:58:55-04:00

Less But Better

Today I deleted over 30 apps from my phone.

They weren’t serving me anymore.

They were weighing me down.

A lot of life is like that.

We sign up for things because we’re scared to say no, we hoard things because we think we might need them, and we bottle up old feelings thinking they are benefitting us.

In Greg McKeown’s bestselling book, “Essentialism” his main thesis is this…

“Less but better”

How can we all apply this in our lives?

Eliminate things that are unnecessary and prioritize the things that bring us fulfillment.

Hang out with fewer people but have deeper relationships with them.
Commit to fewer projects but become a master at those few.
Focus on fewer thoughts but expand on the most worthy ones.

Priority is not supposed to be plural.

We need to stop overwhelming our plates with more than we can handle.

Try “less but better” and see how we do.

It might be one of the most freeing things we’ve ever given priority to.

Less But Better2022-11-09T18:30:09-04:00
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