Positivity and optimism are central themes to a life of happiness. Putting our best work out there, being generous with our time, and taking care of others are all things we want to do because we know it helps the world become better and we feel better because of it.
But, sometimes we break down. We stumble. We fall. We don’t feel worthy enough and we want to hide.
It’s okay. Go hide, go cry, go shout, go punch a wall. Whatever we have to do to cope with life sometimes we have to do it. Sometimes that is leaning on others but sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it’s being by ourselves and wallowing for a night or two or many.
But, then, we have to endure.
We have to build back stronger.
We have to be aware that whatever we may have gone through; the pain, the sorrow, the tragedy, it all makes us stronger. Enduring the pain and then rising up from it makes us know we can be whole again.
We now know what it’s like to hit rock bottom and resurface. We know what it’s like to feel like we have no way out. But, we found a way.
Or we will find a way. We have to.
Because that courage to fight another day is a gift to the world. It’s an offering to those that haven’t gotten to the level of our despair before and may need to be shone the light when they get into the depths of hell. When they feel there is no way out. When they don’t have the courage we might have.
Use that energy and shine a beam of light forward for others to follow.
We’ve learned the lessons. We’ve earned the courage. Now it’s time for us to create some action and do good with it. For others and for ourselves.
Episode 210 features Lexi Godlewski, a former guest of the Podcast (ep.135), Marketing Strategist & Success Coach. We spend most of the interview talking about her recent decision to move from New York to Hawaii and all of the emotions and changes that came along with it. This is such a great conversation around recognizing your feelings, stepping outside your comfort zone, and taking calculated risks to help lead you down a path toward happiness.
Lexi Godlewski is a heart-centered Marketing Strategist and Success Coach who helps experts transform into Soultrepreneurs! She’s also the podcast host of “Building My Empire”, which documents her journey as she builds her business from the ground up and gives listeners the secrets to creating a profitable business while experiencing the richness of life.
Life ebbs and flows. Some days we are on the highest of highs and on others it’s the lowest of the lows.
Rarely, on the best days, are we ever thinking about despair or loneliness or how we are ever going to get out of this feeling. It’s only on the bad days
Rarely, on the best days, are we ever consumed by the passing watch hands and can’t wait for something to change and get us out of this nightmare. It’s only on the bad days.
Rarely, on the best days, are we ever comparing ourselves to others wishing we were smiling and laughing and being loved by everyone around us. It’s only on the bad days.
“Comparison is the thief of joy” as the great quote goes.
It’s always in comparison to others or to what we don’t have or to what is absent in our lives, that sucks the joy out of it. We all go through this and we know it’s not easy.
But, this too shall pass.
How quickly it passes can be directly related to our efforts in recognizing our triggers and our emotional state when those triggers come to fruition.
We can’t blame others. We have to take ownership and look in the mirror. We can fix this.
Is our worth tied up in others? Are we doing things that make us come alive? Have our decisions put us in stressful situations? How can we learn at this moment to make future moments more manageable?
These questions and others around it can help us focus on the problem areas of our life and address the parts that we need to improve. Generally, there is a “self” before them. We need to have more self-love, self-awareness, self-observation, self-control, etc.
Life can be hard a lot of the time but once we choose to make the effort to approach it in a way where we are in control instead of situations and people controlling us, we have a wonderful chance to lean into happiness more often.