Get Out Of Jail Free

When we’re young we are told that if we make bad choices we could end up in jail.

What is never explained, however, is that while we may not end up in a physical jail for committing a crime, our decisions could lead us into a “mental jail” that might be just as bad, in some cases.

We feel stuck
We feel stressed
We wonder how we got here
We are in a situation that seems impossible to get out of.

But there is a way.

It’s difficult and it might take time but it starts with a choice.

A choice to change.

Just like the choices we’ve made that didn’t work out and got us into this situation, we can make new choices to lead us out of it.

We can recalibrate the compass and move in a different direction.

The choice to change becomes our “get out of jail free” card.

Having the courage to change ultimately determines whether we use it or not.

Get Out Of Jail Free2022-07-13T20:52:25-04:00

Misdirection

We actually don’t need to make monumental big changes. That’s a common misconception.

It’s the small changes that matter. The ones that are incremental and barely even scratch the surface. The ones that almost no one would notice if they looked at us or our work.

The ironic thing is that’s how big moments happen. From very small, microscopic adjustments over a long period of time.

That’s the only way true change can happen. It has to become part of us. We have to rewrite our DNA, in a way.

That takes time. It’s okay that it takes time. We just have to be prepared for the long haul. We may not be able to see the impact early on but we have to trust it’ll have a monumental effect on our life.

We have to believe it to be true and keep progressing one small step at a time.

Misdirection2022-02-13T16:37:30-04:00

Software Update

We want people to accept the updated version of ourselves when we put ourselves through the work to change.

This is the new me, we shout! Embrace me. I’m different than before. Give me recognition!

But we have to remember that others are going through their own transformations. They may not be talking about it as much or sharing their journey for all to see. But we might notice some changes.

We must embrace them, as well. We must be happy that they’ve gone through the work and energy and time to make some bug fixes to their code and have created a new and improved version.

If we only care about our own upgrades and can’t applaud those around us and be proud of their achievements then we might need a few more tweaks ourselves.

Selflessly giving praise to others without needing it in return can be a wonderful change that leads us toward happiness.

That selflessness and empathy toward others is the improvement we all need to make.

It’s something that should come standard with our base model.

It’s something we should continue to refine with each new version.

Software Update2022-02-08T19:42:09-04:00

Perfect Game

Perfect doesn’t exist.

We’ll make mistakes. We’ll fail. We’ll embarrass ourselves.

Something is bound to go wrong.

But shouldn’t we expect that?

Nothing is ever perfect, and if something appeared to be, wouldn’t it feel manufactured and fake?

Embrace the stumbling and staggering and blindly wandering into the dark woods ahead.

Embrace not knowing the exact way.

You’re not alone, nobody else does either.

Perfect Game2022-06-28T19:41:53-04:00

The Butterfly Effect

Why does a Monarch butterfly do the things it does?

Here is a caterpillar, crawling around the earth and living just fine. Then, for reasons we can’t possibly fully know, it decides to create a cocoon and after a short isolation period, boom, it now has wings.

It now can fly somehow. Not only does it fly but it flies over 3000 miles to migrate in Central Mexico each year.

How does it know to do that?

What magic just happened in that cocoon?

I can’t be for certain but it’s a great metaphor for life.

We are always changing. We are always evolving our thinking. We are always moving forward.

Each day. Each minute. Each second.

Our thoughts and actions determine the person we will be tomorrow, and the next week, and the next year.

Unlike the caterpillar, we can choose our path forward.

We can create the life that we want even if today, reading this, we might not feel we can.

Those can be hard things; change, but we are capable.

We have to have the courage to take the risk of changing from a caterpillar to a butterfly.

We have to know we are capable of the hard work to create action and progress.

And then, we have to believe we can fly.

The Butterfly Effect2021-12-27T15:17:38-04:00

Can We Really Change?

Can we really change?

It starts with our belief system. We either believe we have the ability to change our surroundings, circumstances, relationships, etc or we don’t. 

Full stop. 

Almost everything we do hinges on the above belief. 

If we don’t believe we do then we don’t prioritize changing. We’ll always be too “busy.” We’ll make excuses. 

If we do believe we are in control of changing then it opens us up to ask ourselves questions like…

  • Why will this time be different?
  • What can I really do if I put the effort in? 
  • Where can I stretch myself like I never have before?

Remember, to discover happiness we must first discover ourselves. 

Asking those simple questions might be the starting point. 

The path forward forms from there. 

Can We Really Change?2022-06-01T15:47:00-04:00

Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes

We all want to be doing something we are not currently doing. From big to small, it doesn’t matter what it is, all of us have things sitting on the “to do” list that for whatever reason are not taking priority. 

The first question is why? Should it really be this far down the list and neglected or does it belong there because it’s not an important endeavor? 

If it belongs down the list then stop worrying about it. Stop saying we “should” be doing it. It doesn’t matter. It’s not a priority and shouldn’t be bothered with. It’s one less thing we need to be worrying about and causing us additional stress. 

But, If we are honest with ourselves and decide it should be given a higher ranking then we have to figure out how we manage to add it to our calendar. Whatever it might be. If it’s important to us to some degree we have to figure out how we start. 

Here’s an idea. There’s a good chance whatever we are trying to accomplish won’t take a full day, week, or even months but it will take some amount of time greater than what we might have allotted tomorrow. 

But that shouldn’t mean we don’t start. 

Start the action of completing it tomorrow. For 10 minutes even. Set a timer for 10 minutes and think and act on that thing. Commit more if you’d like but at worst just 10 minutes. If it’s a larger-scale project it might just be the first ideation phase and for a shorter home project, it might just be searching online and actually buying the tools we need. 

Every situation will be different. But we all need to start one way or another.

Forget about the next day and the one after that. Focus on tomorrow. Let’s check that box off first before we get ahead of ourselves. 

From there, we can have small wins and mount a path forward. 

For now, start with tomorrow. We’ll figure out the rest when we get there.

Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes2022-08-01T19:56:08-04:00
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