Potential– The inherent ability or capacity for growth, development, or future success.
When we were told as kids, “You have potential”, it meant that we had a lot of opportunities to grow into something more than we were at that time.
However, I wish we interpreted it as the ability to step outside of the box we were in, shake it up a bit, turn it upside down, and then see what happens. I wish we were told that we control our “potential” by prodding and poking our belief systems.
We develop beliefs about all types of things from the time we are young but if we are not careful we start to become those beliefs, even if they are peppered with unfounded information and half-truths.
We have to battle-test our own beliefs and make sure they are not claims we’ve just gone with because they’ve been with us for so long. Because they feel comfortable and make sense to us.
We have to have the courage to at least try. Otherwise, we’ll only be able to stretch as far as those beliefs allow us to go.
We thought differently back then. We observed differently. Our environment was different.
So why hang on to the old belief systems?
We have the potential to change our beliefs if we give ourselves the opportunity to get outside that box that society likes to put us in.
The one that we have kindly accepted all of these years without question.
If we believe in something wholeheartedly then we should have no fear in pursuing it to the max.
No fear of failure. Of rejection. Of loss.
If we feel it deep down in our core then we have to see it through one way or another.
In fact, we can’t lose either way.
On one hand, if we achieve what we wanted in the first place then we can reflect on the process it took to get there and the impact this will have on our lives going forward.
On the other, if it doesn’t work out, at least we know. I think “not knowing” is one of the things that hold us up from letting go of this idea. That thought of “can I really achieve this?”, “do they really want to be with me?, “can I overcome this obstacle?”
It eats at us.
So, at least if we know then we can change our mindset and alter our thinking. We don’t have to hold onto this idea any longer.
We can move on and move forward.
We can believe that there are better things up ahead for us.
I envision a world where we are free of self-judgment, trust the process, and create for others.
I have over 20 years of lived experience as a solopreneur. During those years I based my self-worth on the financial success of my business. This not only limited the growth of my business it placed limits on all aspects of my life. It determined where I showed up, how I showed up, what I created and how I shared it.
Self-worth is measured by the value we give to others and it is driven by a clear WHY (purpose).
My journey to my WHY was the most valuable part of the process. I now measure my worth not by money or fame but by the value, I bring to others. I have a good sense of who I am at my natural best and know the actions I need to take when in a struggle.
I have created the Lead With WHY Workshop so others can immerse themselves in the process of finding their WHY, start creating value for others, and most importantly, feel worthy every step of the way.
My WHY: To inspirit self-leadership so we can live our best life.
How many times would we sit idle in class when the teacher asked if there were any questions only because we didn’t want to be the one who looked like we didn’t understand?
We assumed if nobody else raised their hands then we were the only incompetent ones.
Our conditioning at the time blinded our thinking.
Don’t show weakness.
Stand your ground.
Don’t let them see you sweat.
These phrases were ever-present in our adolescent years and they brought anxiety and fear into our decisions.
Better say nothing at all than be the laughing stock for the day.
We all now realize that was a fallacy.
Vulnerability is not a weakness.
Emotions are not a weakness.
Asking for help is not a weakness.
They tend to be the opposite. Having the courage to show up this way means that we have gotten comfortable with who we are as a person and the scrutiny and judgment don’t affect us as much, if at all, anymore.
That’s a sweet spot to be in. That is when courage builds into confidence.
That’s when we get to the point where we raise our hands from the back of the class. Not only because we are curious about the answer but because we know many others are as well.