Decisions are made through a mix of past experiences, current conditions, others’ judgment, fear, etc.
Being decisive is a key element to knowing if we are on the right path toward understanding who we are and what makes us happy.
Because indecision comes from our inability to make clear choices.
We want everything.
We feel we are missing out if we choose one thing over another.
We get stuck.
When we continually question ourselves and our decisions it shows a lack of focus on a vision for our future. We have no idea what we actually want and therefore will get paralyzed with fear and anxiety when having to make decisions, especially ones that appear difficult.
We can’t let ourselves go down this path. We have to be willing to stand our ground and be comfortable and confident with who we are and what we believe in. If we aren’t there yet then we have to be willing to put in the work to understand why.
It’s okay if we are different from everyone else in the room.
Have we ever considered, that maybe we are in the wrong room?
Be okay with making the decision to walk out and find a better one that fits the life we want.
Anxiety is a real thing. We should accept it as such and understand that it will happen to us over and over again.
There may be many causes but one that surfaces most often is our ability, or lack thereof, to control an outcome.
When we are waiting we are anxious. Because we want the answer to go one way but know there is some level of probability it won’t. So we have doubts. Which causes anxiety to flood our bodies.
This is where we can use questions to calm ourselves.
What do we want the outcome to be?
Why do we want it that way?
What’s the worse that happens if it doesn’t go that way?
How will we react given unfavorable news?
What are the alternatives we haven’t considered?
By preparing mentally for answers or outcomes that we might not be able to control, comfort comes with internal understanding. It comes with acceptance.
It’s not that we don’t want certain things to happen but it’s accepting that they might not and being okay with that outcome. It doesn’t happen randomly. We have to invest the time in surfacing these feelings in order to face them head-on.
We might be anxiously awaiting an outcome but we can help ourselves by understanding why we are even anxious in the first place.
We can create a space of patience and calmness that ends up helping us well after this specific event passes by.
Because the next anxious moment is right around the corner and it would serve us well to learn how to handle it.