Elevator Pitch

What can be seen as a negative can also be seen as a positive.

“Ugh, the elevator is broken, now I have to climb six flights of stairs” can be flipped around just as easily to “Hey, the elevator is broken, I’ll at least get a little workout in as I climb these six flights of stairs.”

The way we perceive our situation and the world around us influences how we think. If we want to complain, there are many things to complain about. If we want to be grateful, there are the same amount of opportunities for that as well.

The choice is always up to us.

Elevator Pitch2022-07-09T16:44:01-04:00

Scar Tissue

They say, “out with the old and in with the new” but let’s make sure we don’t completely forget.

Wounds heal over time but, like a tattoo, the scars remain present where we can see them from time to time.

They offer a glimpse into the past if we have the courage to look back.

Although we can’t remember pain, we can recall who we were in those moments and how we responded to the situation.

We can gain a perspective that the person looking back today is different from before and the pain of the past has helped blossom promise for the future.

It’s a hard thing to do, feeling the old scars, but it’s one of the few ways we can know we’ve grown.

We know we can handle it again despite how big the wounds end up becoming.

Scar Tissue2022-07-09T13:55:08-04:00

Footsteps

If we get caught up comparing ourselves to others, we must remember this…

They are not a mile ahead of us. They are only just a few feet.

The difference is that they decided to start and hyperdrive their output.

That’s it.

They are no more uniquely qualified than us. We all have something special that could be leveraged if we wanted to.

We could forge our own path.

The hardest choice is whether we begin walking down it or not.

Footsteps2022-07-09T13:47:25-04:00

Minecraft

Crafting well-meaning and articulate messages can take a lot of time to learn.

And that’s the rub of it.

We have to write thousands of bad messages in order to refine our skills, shorten the message, and get specific on the value.

That rationale can apply to many things we do in life. We must be comfortable being bad at something in the early stages in order to hurdle that gap from not knowing to know. From novice to proficient.

Once we start to “get it” and are feeling comfortable then we know we’ve acquired the correct knowledge, mostly through consistency and practice.

That’s when it might be time to look at new ways to be bad again.

To become a beginner learner in a new area.

To once again scale another mountain for growth opportunities that we haven’t yet considered.

Minecraft2022-07-09T13:44:50-04:00

Offensive Coordinator

Sports can be a great metaphor for life.

We can either control the tempo of the game or always be back-peddling on our heels and retreating.

So, It’s important to play offense as much as possible (be optimistic, think positively, show gratitude) versus playing defense (putting up walls, negative self-talk, and letting others control what we do).

The only way to live a happier life is to do it on our own terms, pursuing the things that brighten our day and expose us to new growth opportunities.

To do this effectively, we must have the ball in our hands as much as possible. We must be in control of our thoughts and actions.

We must be okay with being on the offensive.

Offensive Coordinator2022-07-09T13:31:52-04:00

System Failure

Some days we don’t have it all together. We are stressed and anxious and have a ton of responsibility to attend to.

Getting through those days seem like an endless chore. It’s tough to prioritize for the long term when we are putting out fires all over the place.

This is why our preparation becomes so vital to our long term goals, attitude, and happiness. When we create systems for our good habits it helps us accomplish them even on the roughest days and in the most adverse conditions.

It’s not that we can’t miss every now and then but when we get away from our good habits for an extended period of time they become distant to us. We are out of rhythm. We can get lost and have a hard time finding that equilibrium again.

We need to start putting those in place now.

We schedule our work meetings, kids soccer games, dentist appointments, etc. Why not everything else critical to our mental and physical health?

Thinking/meditating
Fitness
Healthy eating
Date nights
Sleep

It should all go on the calendar if we need it to. Then we can take a wide lens look at our day or week and work around it.

It’s not that thingss won’t come up and we have to alter our plans every now and then. It’s when it’s never a priority in the first place it falls through the cracks time and time again.

The system we’ve created becomes broken.

We wonder how we ever get anything done.

System Failure2022-07-09T13:19:05-04:00

Believe It

If we believe in something wholeheartedly then we should have no fear in pursuing it to the max.

No fear of failure. Of rejection. Of loss.

If we feel it deep down in our core then we have to see it through one way or another.

In fact, we can’t lose either way.

On one hand, if we achieve what we wanted in the first place then we can reflect on the process it took to get there and the impact this will have on our life going forward.

On the other, if it doesn’t work out, at least we know. I think “not knowing” is one of the things that holds us up from letting go of this idea. That thought of “can I really achieve this?”, “do they really want to be with me?, “can I overcome this obstacle?”

It eats at us.

So, at least if we know then we can change our mindset and alter our thinking. We don’t have to hold onto this idea any longer.

We can move on and move forward.

We can believe that there are better things up ahead for us.

We can be free.

Believe It2022-07-09T13:09:42-04:00

Wisdom Truth

Knowledge is knowing that you can accomplish something.

Wisdom is recognizing that there are many ways to do it and many factors that determine the outcome.

Self-awareness, humility, and our openness to learn become the building blocks to better decision-making and take us from a place of knowledge to where wisdom can take over.

Wisdom Truth2022-07-09T13:00:46-04:00

Fear of Anything

We’ll always have fear if we don’t understand something.

If we are struggling with moving forward because of fear, curiosity might be the helper we need to call on.

Why is this fear present?
What past “information” has led us to this conclusion?
Could there be more information we haven’t considered?
Would we be willing to accept it if it is different from our current beliefs?

I remember when I used to be terrified of flying. From the night before the flight until we landed, I was a mess. Fearful with every bump. Gripping tightly. Counting every second until we landed safely.

Until I decided to overcome that fear.

To do that I gained knowledge. I asked questions like…
How do planes work?
How are pilots trained?
How safe are planes?
Why does the flight crew choose this as a career?

Once I became curious, it opened up my mind to learn. Once I learned, the fear subsided. Then, to fully overcome the fear I had to face my past beliefs head on.

As I took my next few flights, every time there was a bump or rattle or weird noise, I would ask myself if this was a part of my past belief or a part of what I have newly learned? What seemed more logical?

In time, my fear went away.

There is no more anxiety before flights. I enjoy takeoffs now. Every once in a while a big “bump” in the sky will get my attention but I think it’s my past fears waving to me and letting me know they miss me. It is normally short-lived.

I overcame my fear of flying by being curious. That curiosity led me to knowledge that led me to a different belief.

I’m not saying it’ll be easy but if we want to give ourselves the opportunity to change then we might think about questioning our old beliefs.

They hold many unfounded “truths” that may be best to leave in the past.

Fear of Anything2022-06-14T21:28:19-04:00

Matters of Importance

Most things we deal with on a day-to-day basis do not matter.

They are insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

But, to kids, they might be the most important thing in the world.

Showing up for their class event
Reading to them at night
Watching them build something when they ask us to come to observe
Listening to them tell a story

Kids stay present much more than adults so when we show up for them and make them feel heard, seen, or acknowledged it can have a positive long-term effect even if it is hard to see at that moment.

It’s easy to brush away these moments and say “I’ll do it next time” because we are looking at it from our viewpoint. We see it on a grander scale. We think we have time.

Kids observe differently. They take it much harder when the consistent “no” or the “no show” happens. They are focused on the now. They crave our attention. We are their whole world.

It may not be important to us but maybe we should reconsider what is.

Matters of Importance2022-06-14T21:14:14-04:00

Chasing Happiness

If we’re chasing something, we’ll never be happy.

Chasing money
Chasing fame
Chasing a partner

It never works out favorably.

Because we can’t calibrate when we’ve “achieved” it. And if we could, then what?

Instead, happiness should be a journey. We challenge ourselves to start something hard, we do meaningful work, and we surround ourselves with people who spark our enthusiasm and give us energy.

By making those choices, we become happier moment after moment and day after day.

Just like 10 years ago when we had no idea what would’ve made us happy today, we can’t be for certain what the following years hold.

All we can do is keep showing up every day.

There is no “X” on the map that marks the spot.

Our future terrain has never been explored before.

It’s our job to do the work every day to find our footing and forge the correct path.

Chasing Happiness2022-06-14T21:02:37-04:00

Co-Existence

Some people think it’s sexy to have a fancy car, lovely jewelry, or a big house.

But, others, think it’s sexy to talk for hours over a cup of coffee, enjoy a long walk on the beach, or find time to “unplug” and think.

Someone else’s happiness doesn’t have to be our happiness.

We have to stop worrying about what other people think about our choices and, at the same time, start accepting them for how they choose to live their lives.

Both of these can co-exist.

When they do, we all become happier because of it.

Co-Existence2022-06-14T20:55:37-04:00

Cannonball

My son asked me, “Can I jump in the pool with my towel on?”

I asked, “Is that a good decision?”

He asked, “will I get in trouble?”

I said, “No, it’s your decision. What do you want to do?”

Too many times when he was younger I’d say No.
Too many times I’d battle him and invoke my “power” as the parent.
Too many times I’d want to be in control.

But that’s the funny thing about growth. As you are trying to move toward happiness the little things don’t matter as much.

Who cares if he jumps into the pool with his towel? It doesn’t hurt him or me at all.

At that moment, It was a small opportunity to give him some independence and make the choice he wanted to make.

He chose to jump in!

It’s what made him happy.

I have to respect that.

Cannonball2022-06-04T15:08:06-04:00

Pain and Gain

Growth begins through pain.

Nobody that’s changed their mindset, perspective, or worldview started that way under clear blue skies.

It happens with dark clouds overhead. It’s probably hailing golf-ball-sized pellets. There is no cover in sight.

We are exposed.

But, like a passing thunderstorm turning to a bright colorful rainbow, when people see us happier and driving our purpose forward they think it’s always been this way.

They don’t realize all of the pain we’ve endured and can’t imagine the struggle.

Because it wasn’t their storm to weather.

But we know what we’ve been through.

And we know, whether we want to admit it or not, that we’d go through it again.

Because we know it’s made us stronger.

It’s made us more resilient.

It’s made us more grateful.

It’s made us more fierce than we’ve ever been before.

It’s through the painfully dark days that bring the bright sunlight.

Now, it’s up to us to share that warmth with the world.

Pain and Gain2022-06-04T15:01:20-04:00

A River Runs Through It

It’s important to cherish this moment right here.

Maybe there is stillness.

Maybe there is conflict.

Maybe there is fun.

Either way, we must embrace this moment for what it is and for the learning it is giving us.

It is shaping our future in ways we don’t even realize.

Like an eroding river, it may flow in an entirely different path years from now because of what we’ve given ourselves today.

The opportunity for space and perspective.
The opportunity to be grateful for what we have.
The opportunity to see beyond the worry.

To accept that to just “be” sometimes is more valuable than always “being” something and always looking for something else.

Instead, it may be a good practice to stand on the banks of todays river and be humbled by all we’ve been through up to this point. All we’ve endured and been able to weather.

It’s doesn’t always have to be about more.

Today could be good enough if we can appreciate the moments it took to carve out this current path.

It shouldn’t be taken lightly.

A River Runs Through It2022-06-04T14:57:16-04:00

A Marriage Story

They say sales is like dating.

Because customer success is like marriage.

If we’re not always checking in on things, communicating when we notice changes, and being open and transparent about needing or wanting help, things start to break down.

Sometimes it can be salvaged, many times it cannot.

Once respect is lost we almost never get it back.

The partnership has a deep wedge in it now.

Sometimes the best option is to part ways, even if there is a lot of history of great times because the divide cannot be repaired.

It’s too weakened.

It’s too damaged.

The bond, which was once tight, has softened and cracked.

A Marriage Story2022-06-04T14:50:50-04:00

Put Me In Coach

We lost the great John Madden at the end of 2021 and it made me reflect on the impact we can all make, not by being an “influencer” or by showing off but just by living life to the fullest and respecting those around us.

John Madden, from what it appeared, was beloved by many because of how gracious he was with his time, how much passion he put into his work and the people he was around, and how he enjoyed it all.

Life can get overcomplicated and we can overwhelm ourselves with things that don’t end up mattering at all. We add unnecessary stress and anxiety where it’s not needed.

Do what John Madden might have done.

Go to the chalkboard.

Go back to the Xs and Os and the foundation of it all.

Keep it simple.

Be kind to people.
Make the most of each moment and each encounter.
Create a positive outlook on life as things could be much worse than they are..
Push yourself to try new things and tackle new obstacles.
Live your happiness, not anyone else’s.

Put Me In Coach2022-06-01T20:51:44-04:00

Sharp Left Turn

When many people are following the crowd one way, it’s okay to turn the other way down the dark alley and start on your own path.

Just because the masses are doing one thing doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for you.

Sharp Left Turn2022-06-01T20:43:23-04:00

This is Us

It’s easier to point fingers and make a blanket statement that “______ has to change” and all will be better.

But the harder thing to do is to accept that it starts inside of us.

Kindness breeds kindness.
Acceptance breeds acceptance.
Love breeds love.

It always starts there.

This is Us2022-06-01T20:39:43-04:00

Hand Raiser

If we always have the mindset that “I can learn something new from every person I encounter” then it opens us up to incredible possibilities.

We go into each conversation, with each connection, as a curious learner.

The need to be the “smartest person” in the room goes away.

So does the ego.

The thought of “winning” isn’t necessary any longer.

All we are left with is open and honest dialogue.

We can question and prod.

We can listen and soak everything in.

No agenda. No alterier motives.

We become a learner first and the rest works out how it works it.

Most likely, we come away with more information and more respect from the other party than we’ve ever had before.

Hand Raiser2022-06-01T20:27:06-04:00

Mission Critical

We can’t forget about the goals we’ve set for ourselves.

We may will stumble.
We may will get passed by others.
We may will have to veer off-course.

But don’t forget about our goal.

When it feels like we are slugging along, we must keep moving.
When we feel like we are the only ones running uphill, we must keep moving.
When we feel like we are questioning our every decision, we must keep moving.

If the journey is worth it then so is enduring some pain to get there.

While we are focused forward there may be others behind us, using our guidance and direction as a beacon of light, maybe one of hope, helping them along when they feel defeated and weak.

We have to believe we can be a light in the darkness.

We have to believe our mission is worth it.

We have to believe.

Mission Critical2022-06-01T20:14:49-04:00

I Would Walk A Thousand Miles

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step”

But what is that “step”?

It is not necessarily a physical one at all.

It’s more mental.

It’s a thought or an idea.

It’s a maddening power that has taken over our minds.

We can’t stop thinking about it and it haunts our every move.

The journey of a thousand miles, we might argue, begins with a decision.

We have two paths in front of us. One leading down the route to pursue this idea further and one suppressing it and smoldering the flame.

It’s a choice.

It’s a decision that ends up making a thousand more decisions for us.

The question becomes a simple one then.

Which path are we going to venture down today?

I Would Walk A Thousand Miles2022-05-22T14:55:02-04:00

Back of the Class

How many times would we sit idle in class when the teacher asked if there were any questions only because we didn’t want to be the one who looked like we didn’t understand?

We assumed if nobody else raised their hands then we were the only incompetent ones. 

Our conditioning at the time blinded our thinking. 

Don’t show weakness. 

Stand your ground.

Don’t cry.

Don’t let them see you sweat. 

These phrases were ever-present in our adolescent years and they brought anxiety and fear into our decisions. 

Better say nothing at all than be the laughing stock for the day. 

We all now realize that was a fallacy. 

Vulnerability is not a weakness.

Emotions are not a weakness.

Asking for help is not a weakness.

They tend to be the opposite. Having the courage to show up this way means that we have gotten comfortable with who we are as a person and the scrutiny and judgment don’t affect us as much, if at all, anymore.

That’s a sweet spot to be in. That is when courage builds into confidence.

That’s when we get to the point where we raise our hands from the back of the class. Not only because we are curious about the answer but because we know many others are as well. 

They just haven’t developed the courage, yet. 

Let us be the guide and show them the way.

Back of the Class2022-05-22T14:43:05-04:00

Endurance Race

My son is an only child. I can’t fathom what goes through his head when he sees his friends playing with their siblings.

All I know is what he shares with me.

He feels lonely. He can get sad. He wishes he had a brother.

But he also endures. He has courage. Way more than I ever had at his age.

He has learned to walk up to kids at the park, complete strangers, and ask them if they’d like to play.

He doesn’t get too affected by rejection. He doesn’t let it linger for too long, at least.

He amazes me because he proves that when the world wants to judge you and put you into a box, you can break out of it.

You can carve your own path.

I don’t know what it’s like to be in my son’s shoes but I’m glad he’s learning, adapting, and enduring.

He’s starting to realize that the world works in a variety of different ways.

He’s working to be comfortable in his own skin and embrace his differences.

He’s starting to gain perspective.

Endurance Race2022-05-22T13:59:34-04:00

Energy Field

We never know when new people are going to enter our world. Think of close friends, a mentor, maybe a spouse or significant other.

There was one day we never knew who they were. We didn’t know we needed them. Until we felt that spark of energy.

We’ve all felt it. We’ve all had it. We all want to feel it again.

We’re not sure what it is exactly. We can’t explain it. But that shared energy field is around us. It pulls us in. We can’t resist. We can’t look away.

It’s special because we all meet thousands of people throughout our lives. But only a few stand out above the rest.

Why are there a select few that take up a majority of our headspace?
Why are there only so many that we invest time in?
What is it about them that’s so special?

When we find that connection it’s important to remember that we have to work at keeping it up. Our environment changes things. Life events change things. Things won’t always be how they’ve been.

If that connection is valuable then we must keep working to make it stay strong.

We must keep finding the time.
We must keep showing up.
We must keep putting energy into it.

Because it won’t fuel itself.

Energy Field2022-05-12T20:09:38-04:00

Mythbusting

All of these questions have an answer.

Why do we argue?
Why do we fight?
Why do we turn a blind eye to someone in need?
Why do we make an unethical decision?
Why do we talk down to ourselves?
Why are we never enough?

It’s whether we have the courage to do the work to find out that ends up being the most important question of all.

When we make that commitment then we can tackle the situation head-on and be prepared to make the best of it. We can stop rationalizing after the fact.

Understanding ourselves is a challenging process but if we are willing to start from the beginning and take one step forward then we might be encouraged to keep going.

The benefits to a happier and positive life are astronomical but we have to be willing to start with the first question. “Am I ready?”

Mythbusting2022-05-12T20:07:20-04:00

Preventative Maintenance

My Trailblazer runs well for being 15 years old. It has its bumps and bruises and certainly has shown some fading but If it’s washed and waxed it’s hard to tell its age from a distance.

But the outside appearance doesn’t make the car run well. It’s the consistent focus on preventative maintenance in the years I’ve had it.

Routine oil changes and tire rotations.
Trusting the recommendations of the mechanic to fix areas of concern.
Being proactive versus reactive.

Simple stuff.

Yet, things could have been overlooked or pushed off for a short-term monetary gain.

It’s really a metaphor for our lives.

When we feel sluggish, low on energy, depressed, or in a rut, it’s normally the focus inward that can be the most helpful. It’s reflecting and asking questions like…

Are we getting enough sleep?
Are we eating healthy food?
Are we exercising?
Are we getting outside?
Are our relationships going well?
Are we creating space for ourselves?

We’re going to get beat up throughout our lives but in order to feel young and vibrant as we age, we must focus consistently on the simple things that bring us energy.

Because when they lag we can start to break down and it becomes harder to maintain if it goes on for too long.

Unfortunately, we only get one model. There are no trade-ins here.

Preventative Maintenance2022-05-12T19:35:44-04:00

Snooze Alarm

I’m starting to question if the fear of starting is partly that we don’t want the responsibility of what could happen if we actually succeed.

Comfort is the warm blanket over us as we hit the snooze alarm. Getting up and doing something actually creates a whole new set of unknowns.

Best to stay tucked in for a bit longer, I guess, so we don’t have to deal with the discomfort of waking up.

Snooze Alarm2022-05-06T20:48:34-04:00

We Can Do Hard Things

When things get hard remember that our “20-year-old” version dreamed of having our focus, determination, resilience, and confidence.

We’ve been prepping for these moments for our entire lives.

We can do hard things.

Somedays we just have to remind ourselves.

We Can Do Hard Things2022-05-06T20:46:20-04:00

Fiction Can Be Fun

We might not all be great fiction writers but we certainly have the capacity to make up many stories, in our heads, of events that haven’t happened yet.

We can create some amazing stories on where things might go with a particular situation, what other people do or think, and what happens next based on that.

We spend sleepless nights working through the scenarios. But in our “choose your own adventure” story, how many times does it really come true? How many times do we get the outcome we’ve spent time worrying about?

We get sucked into these rabbit holes for many reasons but one critical factor we often miss is the gap in information.

We fail to ask questions to inform us. The questions might be too difficult or awkward so we avoid them.

Instead of knowing the answers upfront, we defer to waiting, hoping, and fantasizing.

We go into story mode.

That’s easier than the alternative. But harder on us, mentally.

Remove the worrying. Remove the doubt. Remove the 20 questions inside our heads.

Ask that upfront. Be direct. Be transparent.

Whatever is going to happen is going to happen anyway.

Instead of waiting until the cliffhanger at the end of this story, we might as well change the narrative starting out.

Maybe we can create a whole new story out of it.

This time, one that is non-fiction.

Fiction Can Be Fun2022-05-06T20:40:56-04:00

Guideposts

We have to recognize that, at times, other people will be an impairment to our positive psyche. We yearn so much for their approval and want to be looked at as worthy in their eyes.

Whether they are stories we make up in our heads or actual feedback, we care what others think of us and we let it affect our mood and shape our reactions.

This is where having a core group of trusted peers and mentors becomes monumental. They become our sounding board for ideas, inspiration, and direction. This allows us to block out the other noise and focus on the opinions of those we trust, respect, and care about.

Progress can happen when we trust our judgement with the path we want to venture down but have trusted guides for when we happen to veer off it. When we stay focused on the steps ahead, the noise of the naysayers becomes muted.

The path forward becomes much clearer and quieter.

Guideposts2022-05-06T20:31:01-04:00

One Of One

When we look around at the world and compare ourselves to others the first thought for many of us is that we are not good enough.

We feel that we are not pretty enough, not creative enough, not outgoing enough, not _______.

But, we are special.

In a world where many things are a commodity, we are a rare jewel.

We are “1 of 1”.

There is not a single person on planet earth exactly like us. (Not even if we have an identical twin)

We are unique.

We should stop comparing ourselves with others and be proud that this is who we are.

Do we want to improve? Get better? Be happier? Then, it’s on us.

Don’t look around. Look inside.

Nobody thinks the way we think or has the programming exactly as we have it.

We are “1 of 1”.

Be proud of that.

Don’t try to be someone else. Nobody likes a ripped off version.

We want authentic. We want real. We want a unicorn.

That’s you.

Now, go do you. Whatever it is you want to do.

One Of One2022-05-06T20:22:38-04:00

Escape Room

Decisions are made through a mix of past experiences, current conditions, others’ judgment, fear, etc.

Being decisive is a key element to knowing if we are on the right path toward understanding who we are and what makes us happy.

Because indecision comes from our inability to make clear choices.

We want everything.

We feel we are missing out if we choose one thing over another.

We get stuck.

When we continually question ourselves and our decisions it shows a lack of focus on a vision for our future. We have no idea what we actually want and therefore will get paralyzed with fear and anxiety when having to make decisions, especially ones that appear difficult.

We can’t let ourselves go down this path. We have to be willing to stand our ground and be comfortable and confident with who we are and what we believe in. If we aren’t there yet then we have to be willing to put in the work to understand why.

It’s okay if we are different from everyone else in the room.

Have we ever considered, that maybe we are in the wrong room?

Be okay with making the decision to walk out and find a better one that fits the life we want.

Escape Room2022-06-01T15:39:15-04:00

The Truth About Cats And Dogs

Cats and Dogs rarely play with the same toy again and again. Sure, they have their favorites they’ll pick up every now and then but they will typically bounce around to different ones or lose interest all together.

However, what do they yearn for? Sleep, Exercise, Companionship, and Belonging.

Somehow, they’ve figured out that, “Whoever dies with the most toys doesn’t win.”

Although we might be the “smartest” species in the room, we could learn something from them if we were open to it.

The Truth About Cats And Dogs2022-05-02T08:43:51-04:00

Carefree Living

A big difference between kids and adults is that kids are willing to be silly and carefree with a very short view into the future. They aren’t thinking too far ahead which allows them to live in the moment.

Adults are always looking around and wondering who is watching before they can normally let go and be themselves. We get crippled by a cloud of fear that we create over ourselves.

Instead of telling our kids what to do maybe, we should take a page out of their playbook and just throw the whole playbook out.

Be spontaneous.

Be silly.

Live in the moment.

Carefree Living2022-04-28T20:10:33-04:00

Elementary

I remember walking my son to kindergarten and being amazed at how much he’d grown and how fast those first few years of his life went by.

It reminded me of when I was in kindergarten, over 30 years ago, and how quickly the time seemed to pass. I still remember the fifth-grade classes being on the third floor and thinking, “I’m never going to get up to fifth grade. It’s going to take so long. I have so many years ahead of me.”

As I write this, my son isn’t in Kindergarten anymore. He will be heading into fifth grade next fall.

How quickly time passes us by.
How precious our time is.
How easily we dismiss it.

The game clock is continually running and there are no timeouts. This moment is fleeing just like the last.

Embrace it all.

Because, remember, this all ends.

Elementary2022-04-28T19:47:39-04:00

Pace Car

Continuing to discover our purpose is a valuable practice every day.

It does wonders for our psyche.

It allows us to feel like we are making strides forward even if we are sitting still.

Because living your purpose doesn’t always mean you have to be “on”.

There are times when we need to think and ponder the world and our next step.
There are times when we need to slow down.
There are times when we need a break.

Finding a purpose is one thing but understanding the power of that purpose and how to go toward it with many different speeds and angles is quite another.

In our fast-paced world, going “full speed” appears like the only option but that’s not true.

However, we won’t discover that until we discover ourselves. Until we discover what we truly want.

Only then can we unroll the map and plot out our next steps.

Only then can we discover the pace that is best for us.

Pace Car2022-04-28T17:37:23-04:00

Seasonal Allergies

Change is constant and change will happen.

We are either a part of that change or we are fighting against it.

Our body changes as we age but if we’ve been focusing on fitness and healthy eating, that change is quite delayed. If we haven’t, we start to feel those effects compound over time. Building healthy habits early on and sticking with them help form a foundation for us to live each day by.

When we go through a breakup or loss, that change is hard, but if we’ve been focusing on our self-reflection inward then we gain a different perspective on the situation. We start to be comfortable with who we are and that others compliment us. They do not define us. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck. It can just suck much less.

When we lose a job, the same thing happens. If we rely on this job so much to keep up our lifestyle and identity then when it ends we are broken. It’s because we haven’t put in the work to recognize our strengths and give ourselves room to maneuver if need be.

We may not always be in control. We can’t control aging, we can’t control if someone breaks up with us, and we can’t control a job loss or a myriad of other life events.

But we can control if we are prepared for them.
We can control if we’ve taken proper measures to mitigate increased risk or pain.
We can control if we are willing to learn from each experience.

It starts by gaining better self-awareness. It starts by asking ourselves simple questions.

What really makes us happy?
Is this the right “fit”?
Do we need that new “toy”?
Are we okay if this doesn’t go our way?
Do we feel we have a great support system?

Asking simple questions about the foundations of our life offers a glimpse into the crystal ball and whether those will crack under more pressure or hold us upright to weather the storm.

Strong foundations lay the groundwork to build upon and allow us to take chances and be okay if it doesn’t work out.

We need to ask ourselves, today, what is our foundation built on, and are we confident it can hold up to the fiercest storm we might encounter?

Seasonal Allergies2022-04-28T17:25:24-04:00

Waiting Game

If we wait on others then we may be waiting a long time.

We must have the courage to forge the path ourselves and can’t hold up our journey for others that aren’t ready to begin.

Press on and lead. The journey can be lonely at times.

But sometimes we’ll be out in front, dropping the breadcrumbs to help others behind us. If there are others that live a similar ethos then they will soon travel along with us.

We might need to be the leader that they’ve been looking for. They might not have the courage that we’ve already formed.

All we can do is write our own story one day at a time and be a guiding light for others who may need it.

We can’t push them to travel along with us.

That’s always their choice.

Just like venturing out alone is always ours.

Waiting Game2022-04-28T13:48:18-04:00

Follow The Leader

Remember, just because other people are doing it doesn’t mean you have to be doing it.

Stay focused on your mission.

Your reward may not come with likes and comments but with you being able to live the life that gives you purpose.

With you being able to live a life that makes you happy, whatever that means to you.

As we go through this journey, that’s what really matters most.

Follow The Leader2022-04-28T13:30:59-04:00

A Chiseled Mind

Stress can eat away at us and cause pain and anger.

It can cause us to be depressed and make us believe we are spiraling downward.

But have we considered the “why” behind it all?

Are we juggling too much?
Are we prioritizing the wrong things?
Are we avoiding the obvious decision because it’s too painful?
Are we letting others’ voices tower over our own?

These questions can be important to think about when we start to feel the onset of negative emotions and feelings.

Oftentimes, we carry too much of a burden and it weighs us down.

We need to try and unload the unnecessary stuff and focus on the important.

Like an ice sculpture, it may start as a big block but the more it is whittled down it starts to form a beautiful shape.

When we become focused on what is important it can inform us on the decisions we should make.

That informs us where we should spend our energy.

Only then can we chisel away the excess to expose our masterpiece.

A Chiseled Mind2022-05-13T17:33:44-04:00

Nuclear Reactor

We all go through anguish and despair and none of those emotions should be taken lightly.

We need to lean into those. Embrace those. Sit in the suck of those moments.

But then we have to have perspective. We don’t really know how it’s going to turn out from here. We don’t know what will happen. We don’t know where this will lead us in our life.

And, hopefully, that will give us some assurance that we’ll be okay. Because we’ve been here before. Maybe not exactly, but we’ve felt these feelings and been in similar waters.

All we can try to do is have a positive perspective on what will come next.

As the Stoics have said, we can’t always control what’s happening but we can control our reaction to it.

Think. Cry. Reflect. Get emotional. Be with those thoughts and feelings.

And then endure and embrace the potential opportunities that lie ahead.

We can’t know for certain what will happen. But we can control whether our outlook will be positive or negative.

We do have that choice in the matter.

Nuclear Reactor2022-04-14T14:06:36-04:00

Question Everything

One question is all it might take to change a person or situation. Just one question.

Being engaging and opening the dialogue can help facilitate deeper connection and meaning for the other person or group of people listening.

There doesn’t have to be a large presentation or formal agenda to make a difference. Asking a thoughtful or curious question can take dead silence to perpetual chatter.

All it takes is one question to change the tides. When the situation arises, instead of being passive with a closed-off response or hitting the “like” button, go ahead and ask a question.

You might be amazed how it sets off a domino effect and spurs future conversation or connection.

Try to ask one more question or be the one that breaks the silence with a question and see what happens.

Let the magic of connection take form from there.

Question Everything2022-04-14T14:02:43-04:00

Being Present

One day at a time.

One conversation at a time.

One moment at a time.

Instead of hoping and envisioning what could happen. Be present with what is happening.

This moment matters the most. Cherish it and give it our all.

We may not know what the crystal ball holds for us in the future but we can make this moment the most glorious it can be.

Happiness isn’t found in dreaming of the future; it’s in living in the present moment.

It’s about just being.

Being Present2022-05-06T13:33:04-04:00

Coffee Talk

A coffee cup is made for coffee. Until it’s not.

A coffee cup can be used for:
Tea and other drinks
As a measuring cup
To rinse your mouth while brushing
To hold pens and pencils
To trace a circle
To fill with loose change

We can keep going but the point is that just because a tool was intended for one purpose it doesn’t mean it can’t be used for many others.

Before we go and buy the latest widget to solve a problem we should look around and see if we can create a solution. We get to use our creativity and imagination like we’re kids again. We get to solve a puzzle.

It pushes us a bit outside our comfort zone and we get to take agency over the decision. It could be small but it will help us grow. It helps us think outside the box. It lets us question what can be possible if this is possible.

Sometimes a coffee cup is for coffee. Until it’s not.

Coffee Talk2022-04-11T20:09:32-04:00

Model Why?

Don’t underestimate the power of reflection. The 2015 version of you probably went through some shit to help make you the person you are today.

Embrace that, don’t suppress it.

Be okay with asking “Why?” and sitting with that answer for a bit.

Why was I upset?
Why did that bother me?
Why did I get angry?
Why was I short-sighted?
Why didn’t I listen?
Why did I take the shortcut?

Whatever the question is we have to be okay with challenging ourselves to have an honest and thoughtful answer.

We have to be okay with getting uncomfortable as we reflect back on a bad time or experience. As the saying goes, “History doesn’t repeat itself but it does rhyme.”

It may be better to be uncomfortable now, by ourselves, as we learn and grow versus repeating a similar pattern in real-time.

We have to know it will only help us going forward.

Model Why?2022-04-11T20:02:39-04:00

Unfollowing

One of the more interesting things about social media is that we can get judged very often, both directly and indirectly. Comments and likes and DMs and even a “non-response” could be perceived a certain way.

But then there’s the “unfollow”. Someone took the time to follow and look at your stuff and then at some point realized it’s not for them.

We have to get comfortable with this. Rejection is a part of life. People will come and go. This happens on social media and in “real life” outside of it.

People don’t respond. People ghost us. People don’t make the effort. As Abraham Lincoln quote says, “You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time.”

Not everyone will like us. In fact, most won’t.

The ones who do are in it with us.

Those people. Those are our tribe.

Those are the ones we need to cherish and take time for. Those are the ones we need to recognize and reciprocate.

It can’t be one-sided. A relationship works both ways. We need to give more than we take. We need to be empathetic. We need to be encouraging.

Otherwise, we might just get another “unfollow” and this time it might hurt a little bit more.

Unfollowing2022-04-11T19:53:43-04:00

Creative Time

Ideas aren’t just born out of creative sessions and “whiteboarding” but oftentimes come when the opposite happens.

When our mind is quiet, we can think. When we are free of common distractions, we can focus. When we block out the noise, we get a clearer picture.

It’s harder now than ever to find this time. So we have to plan it. We have to section out precious moments each day to corner ourselves.

Do it in the morning before others wake.
Do it before bed when our phone is put away.
Go for a walk at lunch.

We choose how we spend our time. If we feel stuck and are looking for inspiration then the answer might not be to try and do more. It might be to free ourselves and do less.

It might be wise to clear our minds and silence all the noise around us.

It might be the best idea we’ve had in a while.

Creative Time2022-06-02T20:34:01-04:00

Comforter

I’m starting to question if the fear of starting is partly that we don’t want the responsibility of what could happen if we actually succeed.

Comfort is the warm blanket over us as we hit the snooze alarm. Getting up and doing something actually creates a whole new set of unknowns.

Best to stay tucked in for a bit longer, I guess, so we don’t have to deal with the discomfort.

Comforter2022-04-06T12:05:29-04:00

Spring Showers

Bracing through a storm can be very challenging but it’s when we see the flowers start to bloom on the other side we knew it was worth it.

We shouldn’t look at every bad situation and think it’s the end of the world.

It might just be the turning point to something more beautiful.

Something more spectacular.

Something more magical than we ever could’ve imagined.

Spring Showers2022-04-05T19:53:15-04:00

Free Choice

It takes us until we become adults to realize just how hard it is to be a kid.

Kids rarely have free choice.

They have to go to school.
They have a specific bedtime.
They may have to eat their veggies.
They may have to play a sport they don’t like.
Rarely can they buy things that make them happy without approval.
The list goes on.

It should make us wonder then, why we complain so much as adults.
We can choose where we work and what we do
We can determine who we want to be around
We can choose the activities that excite us
We can choose what we eat and when we eat it.

We can choose a lot of things. We can choose to complain or choose to be happy.

It doesn’t switch overnight but we can make decisions to lead us in either direction.

The significant part about being an adult is that we have the choice.

That’s also the hard part, too.

Free Choice2022-07-31T13:17:03-04:00

Indistractable

We all have things in the category of “easy to do” but we choose not to do them. It’s not that we don’t want to do them, what it comes down to is the priority assignment we put on that thing to actually do it.

Whether that is to take 10 minutes to go for a walk, read a book, meditate, sit in thought, etc, or other things like; sitting and talking with your spouse in the morning, reading a book to your child before bed, sending a note to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while, etc.

It’s not that it isn’t easy. It is extremely easy. What is difficult is putting it ahead of other “time wasters” that are urgent but not important. What is difficult is creating a daily habit. What is difficult is changing who we are now with who we want to become.

Those are the things that are difficult.

If we can put all the things we do up for debate on their priority level we might be able to better filter out the urgent and not important and sprinkle in the more fulfilling and long-lasting.

It might not be easy but we can be damn sure it is worth it.

Indistractable2022-07-31T13:16:03-04:00

I Want It That Way

If you’ve come across this blog then chances are with all the hardships in life yours isn’t that bad.

Chances are you have access to high-speed internet or 5G.

Chances are your phone was made sometime in the last handful of years and would be considered “smart”.

Chances are you have warm clothes on if there is a hint of a crisp morning outside.

Chances are when you arrive at work today it’ll be in the car you drove in or just a short few steps away from where you rolled out of bed.

Chances are, if you have kids, when you drop them off at school you are almost certain without worry you’ll pick them up safe and sound in the afternoon.

There is a good chance that your life (and mine) is a heck of a lot easier and more comfortable than a large majority of the world’s population. Probably 99% of it.

Yet, with that comfort also comes a barrier.

A barrier to let things go, seemingly meaningless things, that have almost zero effect on our lives.

A barrier to be patient and wait our turn instead of getting frustrated and causing a scene.

A barrier to thinking about how lucky we are to be in this position in the first place and cherish the hand we were dealt.

A barrier to enduring discomfort. Something the majority of the world has to live with every day.

We are fortunate for the opportunities we have and it’s important from time to time to call those out, head-on, in order to help us lead lives worth meaning and purpose instead of complaining and finger-pointing.

There are greater tragedies in life and many of them we are grateful to never have to think about.

I Want It That Way2022-07-31T13:14:39-04:00

Boiling Point

Water is just water. Until it gets hot enough and starts to boil. It’s still water but now it’s boiling hot and creating a new, gaseous state that wasn’t there before.

We don’t know exactly when because there are many factors to get it to the exact temperature. It depends on the amount of water, the consistency of the heat applied, and outside factors (like salt).

But, at some point, when the conditions are right, it boils.

The same can be true for the work we want to put out in the world. It never gets noticed, picked up, or becomes helpful to us or others until we actually create it, consistently, over time and put energy or “heat” into the process.

We have to be willing to endure the long arduous process of creating with nothing happening. Sometimes, it can be like watching water boil.

But, like the water, we have to be willing to stay consistent and wait it out. We have to be willing to believe that the generous work we are giving to the world will be noticed and appreciated.

When the conditions are right, our time will come.

We may not know the exact time but we’ll be ready.

Boiling Point2022-03-18T17:45:03-04:00

The Long Lost Friend

Failing takes up such a small finite space in time. It exists only to be a placeholder for the next achievement, one that wouldn’t have been possible had it not been for the failure that preceded it.

It begs to reason, then, that we should welcome failure with warmth and kindness.

“Playing it safe” actually becomes a fools’ errand. It makes us believe that we are working in our best interest to protect ourselves from harm. In reality, we are starving ourselves of exactly what we need to achieve greater happiness; facing failure head-on and coming out stronger.

Like a long-lost friend that showed up unexpectedly, we should welcome the failures with open arms.

The Long Lost Friend2022-03-18T17:32:52-04:00

Coloring Outside The Lines

We are told growing up that we have to cut the paper neatly without making a mistake or that we need to be sure to take our time and color between the lines. “That’ll look the best”, we were told and we were compared to others in our class who appeared much better and more skilled than us.

But that’s one skill. One small area of expertise. In a vacuum, sure, maybe that’s relevant but we shouldn’t crush our confidence over something so meaningless.

We are great at a lot of things and if we aren’t great then maybe we try hard and enjoy the chance of improving. We don’t have to be an expert, a guru, or savants just to take on a specific project.

That’s the fun of it altogether. Messing up. Trying and crumpling up the paper. Not caring if it takes another try.

That’s when this magic of two colliding things happens. There is this thing that many before us have completed, accomplished, and tackled in their own way. Now we get to come in, with our unique perspective and experience on it all and create something incredibly different.

It may not even be recognizable and that’s quite alright. That’s when we create things that are truly original.

But we won’t know until we try. And we have to get out of our head that it needs to be some level of perfection.

It doesn’t.

It just needs to be you.

That’s a great place to start.

Coloring Outside The Lines2022-07-31T13:10:26-04:00

Open The Floodgates

Anxiety is a real thing. We should accept it as such and understand that it will happen to us over and over again. 

There may be many causes but one that surfaces most often is our ability, or lack thereof, to control an outcome. 

When we are waiting we are anxious. Because we want the answer to go one way but know there is some level of probability it won’t. So we have doubts. Which causes anxiety to flood our bodies. 

This is where we can use questions to calm ourselves. 

What do we want the outcome to be?

Why do we want it that way?

What’s the worse that happens if it doesn’t go that way?

How will we react given unfavorable news?

What are the alternatives we haven’t considered?

By preparing mentally for answers or outcomes that we might not be able to control, comfort comes with internal understanding. It comes with acceptance. 

It’s not that we don’t want certain things to happen but it’s accepting that they might not and being okay with that outcome. It doesn’t happen randomly. We have to invest the time in surfacing these feelings in order to face them head-on. 

We might be anxiously awaiting an outcome but we can help ourselves by understanding why we are even anxious in the first place. 

We can create a space of patience and calmness that ends up helping us well after this specific event passes by. 

Because the next anxious moment is right around the corner and it would serve us well to learn how to handle it.

Open The Floodgates2022-07-31T13:09:20-04:00

Winning Formula

Cutting people down is counterproductive. 

By encouraging people to do their best, they can actually move faster and freer. Inevitably, that might end up being a motivator for us to find our next gear if we needed it. 

Kindness is a win-win.

It’s not a weakness.

Winning Formula2022-07-29T17:27:27-04:00

A Full Revolution Begins with One Motion

I enjoyed writing for many years and would normally write in journals or random blog articles from time to time. The content structure and topics changed over time but similar messaging was at its core.

Positive Mindset. Consistency. Action. Progress.

A little over a year ago, leading into April 2021, I made a decision. I was a few years into my Just Get Started Podcast and loved doing the show and wasn’t going to stop anytime soon. But those are longer-form interviews. I wanted another medium to share my thoughts, my voice, and my perspective. Blogging, and really “micro-blogs”, were something I enjoyed. Something about dispelling a message into as few words as possible and making it relatable and enjoyable (and a little vulnerable) was intriguing to me.

So I made a commitment.

Launch a blog article every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday each week. I knew it was going to add some more time to my plate but it was important for me with where I wanted to go and the message I wanted to share with the world.

The message above all else is to Just Get Started.

I’m proud to say that after 12 months and over 140 blog articles later we are back in the month of April, a full year after beginning this project. I am more excited than ever to keep writing and sharing these stories and observations and I hope they have been valuable to you.

We don’t know what will happen or how it might impact us but if we believe in something or find a purpose in pursuing a meaningful project then we have to take the steps to get started and keep moving forward. Consistent action over and over again works.

Too many times I’ve sat on the sidelines and wondered and wished and never just did.

It may not work out as we want it to or we might pivot to something else but we don’t know that at first. All we know is that we want to do it.

So go do it. The only thing holding us back is ourselves.

I’ve been in the position where I sat on the sidelines because I was scared to get in the game. I didn’t believe I could do it. We all feel that from time to time. It’s when we realize that it doesn’t actually matter if we believe we can do it or not and what matters is that we try and we build on it from there. We take a leap of faith. We become brave.

Confidence breeds confidence. You only get that from being in the game and being a part of the action.

So, go do it. Whatever it is that you want to do. Start small if you want. But just start.

Whether you succeed or fail never matters, it’s that you can look back at some distant point from the future and be proud of yourself that when your number was called you suited up and checked into the game.

You weren’t going to miss this opportunity.

A Full Revolution Begins with One Motion2022-07-29T17:26:12-04:00

The Happiest Place On Earth

As we think back about our best memories, they are always simple and we are normally surrounded by others.

I think about the moment I found out we were having a baby.
I think about the first moment I held him.
I think about playing golf with my son.
I think about falling in love.
I think about pick-up football games with my friends.
I think about sitting in my grandmother’s dining area and having a conversation with her.
I think about playing video games with my brother.
I think about my first CrossFit competition and being around my team.

I think about all of these memories and so many more and what they might have in common.

We need to go back to 1st Principles thinking. Break down our finest memories and happiest moments. What are the simple building blocks that made them what they are?

  • Love
  • Belonging
  • Energy
  • Freedom
  • Routines
  • Communication

These are some things that come to mind.

If we can do things that hit one or more of these buckets then we are going to have the opportunity to create many happy memories and build an unbelievable life for ourselves and the people around us.

Seek to do more of those things and happiness will inevitably follow.

The Happiest Place On Earth2022-07-17T09:09:34-04:00

Breaking Glad

Positivity and optimism are central themes to a life of happiness. Putting our best work out there, being generous with our time, and taking care of others are all things we want to do because we know it helps the world become better and we feel better because of it.

But, sometimes we break down. We stumble. We fall. We don’t feel worthy enough and we want to hide.

It’s okay. Go hide, go cry, go shout, go punch a wall. Whatever we have to do to cope with life sometimes we have to do it. Sometimes that is leaning on others but sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it’s being by ourselves and wallowing for a night or two or many.

But, then, we have to endure.

We have to build back stronger.

We have to be aware that whatever we may have gone through; the pain, the sorrow, the tragedy, it all makes us stronger. Enduring the pain and then rising up from it makes us know we can be whole again.

We now know what it’s like to hit rock bottom and resurface. We know what it’s like to feel like we have no way out. But, we found a way.

Or we will find a way. We have to.

Because that courage to fight another day is a gift to the world. It’s an offering to those that haven’t gotten to the level of our despair before and may need to be shone the light when they get into the depths of hell. When they feel there is no way out. When they don’t have the courage we might have.

Use that energy and shine a beam of light forward for others to follow.

We’ve learned the lessons. We’ve earned the courage. Now it’s time for us to create some action and do good with it. For others and for ourselves.

Breaking Glad2022-03-07T21:13:49-04:00

Celebrate You

I used to never want to celebrate my birthday. I was shy and didn’t like the attention. Part of it was growing up a middle child and never feeling like I fit in. Part of it was that I felt awkward and uncomfortable in the limelight.

But there was a part of me that wanted the attention, that craved it because I never felt I had any. It’s a weird paradox.

I was introverted and scared to have attention called upon me in almost any situation but yet I yearned to be heard and for my voice to matter.

But what I didn’t realize back all those years ago (and even until just recently) is that I didn’t need to be heard by others to make me happy. What I actually discovered is that I needed to listen to myself. My innermost thoughts were the voice that was being suppressed all along.

I wasn’t looking for approval from the outside. That’s where I was mistaken. I needed approval internally. Approval that the decisions I was making, the things I wanted to do, and the people I wanted to be around were all my decisions if I just listened to myself.

What I have come to realize and respect is that the only way to discover happiness is we must first discover ourselves. We must be willing to gain acceptance from within before ever looking for outside validation.

We know what we want. We do. We’ve just let “society” do the play calling for us instead of being in the center of the huddle and scripting our own plays.

That’s where the game can change. We are in control of our happiness if we want to be. What we spend time doing, who we spend time with, how our attitude is every day, where we put our energy, and what we know is our “why”.

It’s in our control if we take the time to block out the noise around us and listen inward.

We don’t have to fear the limelight as long as we show up as our true authentic selves and put into the world what is deep inside us and makes us energized and driven toward a life full of happiness.

What we should all fear is suppressing that voice and following the direction of what others think we should do. What others care about. What others are doing.

Because their decisions don’t affect us.

The people who we want to be around the most and who love, support, and respect us are never making it about them. They are only asking us one question, “What do you want?”

Are we prepared to trust our inner voice and answer?

Celebrate You2022-07-17T09:07:39-04:00

Misdirection

We actually don’t need to make monumental big changes. That’s a common misconception.

It’s the small changes that matter. The ones that are incremental and barely even scratch the surface. The ones that almost no one would notice if they looked at us or our work.

The ironic thing is that’s how big moments happen. From very small, microscopic adjustments over a long period of time.

That’s the only way true change can happen. It has to become part of us. We have to rewrite our DNA, in a way.

That takes time. It’s okay that it takes time. We just have to be prepared for the long haul. We may not be able to see the impact early on but we have to trust it’ll have a monumental effect on our life.

We have to believe it to be true and keep progressing one small step at a time.

Misdirection2022-02-13T16:37:30-04:00

Kid N Play

Let’s not kid ourselves, people tell us exactly how they feel, one way or another, whether that’s a response by phone, a text message, body language, responsiveness, or a lack of communication.

Whether good or bad, people are telling us and we just have to be paying attention to the signal and block out the noise.

From there, we can get a good sense of where we stand in the relationship and the priority level they are giving to our situation.

We can’t blame anyone but ourselves if we are not tuned in and observing.

Generally, the signs are very glaring from afar.

Kid N Play2022-02-13T16:30:27-04:00

Fools Rush In

Hurrying is a fool’s errand.

It means we were unprepared. We failed to anticipate obstacles and we had to rush to hopefully make up for those pitfalls. Potentially, that enters in more new obstacles or mistakes.

When we are always finding ourselves in a hurry, rushing to finish things, putting out fires, or “busy”, we must first have the awareness to look within at what we can control.

Although it’s easy to blame the outside world for meetings, extra work, or the lights that keep turning red it becomes much more powerful to recognize the control we have well before these even enter into reality.

Creating systems and rules to be better-prepared upfront can eliminate the need for countless “on the fly” decisions when we are behind.

Preparation can become one of the sharpest tools in your arsenal.

Fools Rush In2022-07-17T09:04:37-04:00

Imagination Sensation

What happens to our imagination as we grow older? I’m sure scientific discoveries may point to a particular time in our brain’s development but I’m always curious how much our society has to play in this.

Is it parenting? Our education systems? Or nutrition? Or other factors?

Why do some of us continue to have our imagination and our sheer wonder of things well into adulthood when many others block it out and rarely recreate those childhood feelings?

Having a vivid and wild imagination can create some of the most ingenious things and help our world progress further ahead, in a positive direction, for generations to come. It can make us more creative and unlock the potential for happiness. It can help us question our surroundings and develop our purpose.

I’m wondering how we could tap into that more often and have it “on-demand” versus locking it away for only special occasions.

I’m just curious.

Our imaginations can be a wild and freeing thing.

I thought it might be something we could all ponder for a bit today.

Imagination Sensation2022-03-15T21:17:29-04:00

A Smile Can Go Miles

I tell my son to “Make someone smile today” when I drop him off at school.

The easiest way to enact a positive change in our life is to positively change someone else’s life.

A smile can have ripple effects far greater than we know.

Who are you going to make smile today?

A Smile Can Go Miles2022-02-09T21:47:08-04:00

The Comfy Chair

One of the perks of a good life is to be pampered. Have the red carpet rolled out for us and let us enjoy the fruits of our success.

AC and Heating units, warm baths, packages delivered right to our doorstep, internet, and streaming services. It’s all really comfy.

Comfy is an advantage of the “luck of the draw” living in a first-world country.

But comfy can turn into complacency quickly. Getting too comfortable can make us more fearful of things “out there” we hear about. It can make us be settled with what we have now in order to not rock the boat and potentially harm our “status”. It can help us avoid any risk because when we think of risk we think of failure.

Comfortable is a luxury we have but we have to decide if that’s what we want.

There is no right or wrong answer as it’s up to each of us to forge our own paths but it is interesting to consider what happens when we push past being comfy and get a little (or a lot) uncomfortable.

What can we achieve?
What can we progress?
What can we endure?

Innovation and advancement come from being uncomfortable, both inside and out, to go where we’ve never been before.

To go to the places that scare us.

To be comfortable with the uncomfortable.

The Comfy Chair2022-02-08T19:50:21-04:00

Software Update

We want people to accept the updated version of ourselves when we put ourselves through the work to change.

This is the new me, we shout! Embrace me. I’m different than before. Give me recognition!

But we have to remember that others are going through their own transformations. They may not be talking about it as much or sharing their journey for all to see. But we might notice some changes.

We must embrace them, as well. We must be happy that they’ve gone through the work and energy and time to make some bug fixes to their code and have created a new and improved version.

If we only care about our own upgrades and can’t applaud those around us and be proud of their achievements then we might need a few more tweaks ourselves.

Selflessly giving praise to others without needing it in return can be a wonderful change that leads us toward happiness.

That selflessness and empathy toward others is the improvement we all need to make.

It’s something that should come standard with our base model.

It’s something we should continue to refine with each new version.

Software Update2022-02-08T19:42:09-04:00

Daylight Savings Time

You can’t turn back the clocks.

Days can pass slowly but years sometimes feel like they’ve flown by. That’s how our minds look at the past. More highlights versus seeing a whole rewind of the game.

That’s why it’s so important to continue the work of staying present.

Did we accomplish what we wanted today?
Did we say the things we needed to say at the moment?
Did we make decisions today that set us up even better for the next day?

We might not be able to turn back the clock but we can surely slow it down at the moment.

Stay focused. Stay present. Stay still.

Enjoy this time before it’s gone, too.

Daylight Savings Time2022-02-08T19:38:01-04:00

Open Door Policy

James Dyson took over 5000 tries to “perfect” his Dyson vacuums before he saw traction. We can all be grateful he put that level of determination into his work or we’d still be emptying vacuum bags to this day.

We may be discouraged because of failures of the past but we also have to have a perspective that the future is unwritten. We don’t know what will happen. We have to be willing to give the door one more knock and see if it opens.

Give your project an attempt. Go ask them out. Sign-up for that race.

The hard part isn’t what happens on the other side of the door, it’s having the courage to turn the handle and live with the result that it may not open at all.

What we find out through failing is that we rarely remember the failure. We are proud that we tried.

Sadly, what we remember most often is not making the attempt at all.

That should be a much greater fear than failing; having to live with the feeling of not having enough courage to try in the first place.

Open Door Policy2022-01-25T20:23:10-04:00

Over The Rainbow

We will continue to be pressed with tough situations, unsolicited advice, less than favorable reviews, and chatter from the people in the stands.

We must always remember that if we are willing to take the risk of being ourselves and putting it out into the world then this will be part of the process. We have to weather the cloud of negativity and judgment that can often hang over us.

As Teddy Roosevelt said. “…if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” (Read the full Main in the Arena speech here )

In a way, we need that storm to come. It proves to us the importance of our mission and nothing will stop us. It gives us the chance to believe in a better tomorrow and gives us hope. It lets us know that not everyone is willing to make the sacrifice and our mission is worthy.

Be brave. Be bold. Believe in the good we can put out in the world.

In the end, there will be people looking out the window and cursing the storm and others who are out there splashing in the puddles.

We have to ask ourselves, “Which person do we want to become?”

Over The Rainbow2022-03-02T09:01:17-04:00

Keep Chopping Wood

We live in a world where we are told that quicker is better. Faster, faster, faster.

  • Fast food
  • The “hot” take
  • Crash dieting
  • Hypergrowth

Someone is going to catch us if we slow down. Keep pressing down the accelerator.

But are they? Or is that a story we are making up in our heads?

It doesn’t mean that we have to believe that.

It’s easy to look at examples of businesses or people moving quickly but we have to ask ourselves, “Have they always been moving at “this speed” or are we just watching what happens after momentum takes over after a long winding patient process of action?”

Be intentional about what you are doing. The accelerator doesn’t always have to be pushed to the floor.

The journey will take many unexpected turns. Relish those. Learn. Adapt. But don’t rush.

Things happen when they happen.

But sometimes it’s not as fast as we may want. And we may not be able to control it.

So why get flustered?

Keep chopping wood. Keep progressing forward. Keep living your purpose.

Your time will come.

Keep Chopping Wood2022-01-23T21:06:34-04:00

Comparison Matrix

It’s interesting to find comparisons in creative works that are so seemingly different from one another.

  • Harry Potter
  • The Mona Lisa
  • The Cat in the Hat
  • Red (Taylor’s Version)

What could these possibly have in common?

What we know is that each creator worked consistently over an extended period of time to create it. They made a choice to start and didn’t quit until it was finished.

Some of the greatest “potential” work of our time was probably never finished. Maybe it was barely even started.

Ideas are important, passion is needed, and a positive mindset is useful.

But, we have to believe that our project is worthy of starting.

And then, we have to keep pushing forward, pass the resistance, through the great unknown, and find a way to finish.

Comparison Matrix2022-01-18T16:45:04-04:00

Chillin’ Out, Maxin’, Relaxin’ All Cool

The need for patience always comes at the most difficult times. The times when we need to take a deep breath or a “chill pill” we are normally racing around a mile a minute and worrying.

That’s where the practice of patience becomes an important part of our accessory work.

Sitting in thought. Or silence. Or going through past scenarios and how we could’ve handled them differently are all necessary practices to learn more patience.

It’s hard work. It’s uncomfortable work.

But it’s powerful.

Even sitting with our eyes closed for 5 minutes a day will bring us the mindfulness to exercise patience when we need it most. Maybe some days we might need more time, too. That’s okay and we should reward ourselves with it.

We’ll only know if we put in the work in the first place and see how we feel.

Let’s become prepared for those future moments by getting uncomfortable now and learning how to deal with them.

Patience becomes a great ally we want on our side.

Chillin’ Out, Maxin’, Relaxin’ All Cool2022-07-07T20:49:21-04:00

Fear Factor

We fear rejection only because we forget about its benefits.

If we don’t get rejected directly, it may cause us to worry or a loss of focus wondering why we haven’t gotten a response, why we are being treated a certain way, or if we did something wrong.

But rejection is actually freeing.

When we are rejected we may mull it over for a day or two but then forget about it for a lifetime. It becomes an afterthought because we now have closure.

Rejection can definitely be painful but let’s not forget about all of the stress and anxiety that comes from not knowing where we stand in a given situation.

Which one is actually worse?

I know which one I’d rather have.

Fear Factor2022-01-18T16:09:30-04:00

Travel Restrictions

When we live in our bubble the things we know and feel become very familiar. Our senses are dulled because we can already anticipate what is going to happen. We see it often. It’s comfortable.

The only way to actually grow, or see if we are growing, is through exploration. Visiting a new scene, a new area, a new world.

Traveling outside our bubble can unlock many “spidey senses” that live deep down but don’t get to come out often. We get to have our guard up and make choices. We get to paint a portrait of a new landscape we’ve never seen before.

It can make us alive again. It gives us a perspective that the world is much bigger than our bubble and it rattles our thinking a bit. It makes us question what we believe at this moment.

That’s a good thing.

Because that’s how growth happens, through challenging our thinking, expanding our experiences, and exploring a whole new world we’ve never seen before.

We just have to have the courage to go out there.

Travel Restrictions2022-01-14T16:40:48-04:00

Refocus Our Energy

Rejection hurts because we believe everyone should like us, want to be with us, or want to do business with us.

It doesn’t work that way. Rejection teaches us more about the people who are right for us than the people who are not.

Most people won’t want to give us the time of day. So focus on the ones who do.

Focus on the ones who show up when least expected. Focus on the ones who support you. Focus on the ones who make the effort.

There is only so much time in the day.

If someone is willing to take some time out of theirs and spend it on you then that’s a special thing.

Refocus Our Energy2022-01-14T16:29:29-04:00

Separation Anxiety

It’s been 3 years since my wife and I got divorced. Funny how that much time has passed. Funny to think what we could’ve changed to make it work.

A lot of things for sure.

But, then again, it was probably the right decision. We were both unhappy.

Why stay in something that you are “lukewarm” about, at best?

But that’s what we do as humans. We sort of just settle in for what feels comfortable. We do whatever we can to hold the walls up around us in order to eliminate the abrupt pain of it all caving in at once.

We fail to recognize that having the walls cave in can allow us to rebuild a stronger foundation from the ground up. We can create a more solid structure that is long-lasting.

It doesn’t mean we have to run from every bad situation but it could mean that we have to take a hard look inward on why this is happening in the first place.

What have we done to get here? What have we done to cause this situation? What has been out of our control? How can we change for the better?

Change is really hard. I remember the time between getting “separated” and then actually leaving the house we built together. Those 5 weeks transitioning to leave the house and officially, by legal standards, become separated were brutal.

I cried a lot.
I was heartbroken.
I was depressed.
I was sad.

But then, I wasn’t.

Sure, I can be sad that we weren’t madly in love like many years prior. I can be sad that our son has to be a part of a co-parenting situation. I can be sad that the happy moments we had together would be clouded by this decision we made.

But that’s all a matter of perspective. I had the choice to be happy or sad.

So I chose to be happy.

Everything ends at some point. That’s the rub of life. It all eventually ends. Our situation ended just a bit more abruptly than originally planned. Our story just took a different direction down the wandering path.

But, I’m happy I had those moments with her. I was madly in love, and I know she was, too.

I’m happy my son gets to spend time with each of us individually and grow a stronger bond. He gets to grow up going through some shit. That’s only going to make him more resilient.

I’m happy with all those moments of happiness, laughter, and fun we had together. We had some great times. But I’m also happy for the less-than-desirable moments, too. Because, as I reflect, it’s made me grow as a person and be a better version of myself. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to go through hard times to figure that stuff out.

Life is never easy but if I’ve learned anything it’s that negativity and pessimism almost get you nowhere. I’m sure someone can tell me there is some utility to it but not much that I’ve seen.

If we can take every situation, no matter how dire, and work our way to see the sunshine and rainbows then we have a much better chance of finding the happiness inside ourselves and using that as fuel to power us forward.

It’s hard to get there when we think the world is always giving us a bad hand to play.

Once we accept that we may not have played the hand correctly then it can make it much easier to respect the outcome and move on.

It doesn’t mean we forget about the past as those moments and experiences helped define who we are, good or bad. But it gives us the opportunity to use those moments and learn from them.

We have the opportunity to start anew. Not from square one but from much farther ahead because of the wealth of knowledge we’ve gained through all of it.

Be open to change. Be receptive to it. Embrace it.

It’s all a matter of perspective.

Separation Anxiety2022-02-12T22:23:31-04:00

Perfect Game

Perfect doesn’t exist.

We’ll make mistakes. We’ll fail. We’ll embarrass ourselves.

Something is bound to go wrong.

But shouldn’t we expect that?

Nothing is ever perfect, and if something appeared to be, wouldn’t it feel manufactured and fake?

Embrace the stumbling and staggering and blindly wandering into the dark woods ahead.

Embrace not knowing the exact way.

You’re not alone, nobody else does either.

Perfect Game2022-06-28T19:41:53-04:00

A Frame Of Reference

They say a picture is worth a thousand words but it’s also worth a time stamp. It’s an imprinted memory with a date circled.

It gives us a wormhole, of sorts, to the past.

How were we feeling at that moment?
Where was our life at?
What was happening to us?
Who were we becoming?

A single picture, a snapshot, can open up a wave of thoughts and emotions about life already lived.

How does that make us feel?

Are we sad that the moment is gone or grateful we had the opportunity in the first place?

Pictures capture moments. Moments become memories. Memories give us a view, although distorted, of our past.

It provides the perspective to live in the moment and not waste any of it because eventually, the present moments will become memories that we either capture with a picture or, more importantly, keep close by in our hearts.

A Frame Of Reference2022-01-13T22:00:42-04:00

Heartwarming Surprise

Getting a surprise text from an old friend or a random gift sent to us makes us feel so good. We get a smile on our faces and we’re grateful that there are people out there thinking about us.

Who could we spin that idea around on today? Who haven’t we conversed within many months or years that we could send a text or message saying we are thinking about them?

It can be the smallest gesture but those can go a long way to make people feel better.

Think of 1-2 people today and take a proactive approach to message them. Maybe it’s a quick hello back, maybe it turns into a longer conversation, maybe it happens to lead to an actual phone call.

Who knows?

The most important part is the first message. The one that catches them off guard. The one that warms their heart knowing that there are people out there thinking about them, too.

Heartwarming Surprise2022-06-28T19:40:20-04:00

The Sands Of Time

The people we connect with tell a lot about who we are as a person.

Do they make us laugh, think, or play? What do we tolerate? What concessions do we make despite red flags? Where do we draw our lines?

“We are the average of the five people that we spend the most time with”, as the saying goes.

What are the trade-offs we make for comfort? Who won’t we trade-off because we are unwilling to have a difficult conversation with? Who do we really want in our circle but are afraid to ask?

We need to continue to audit our connections and tighten the nuts and bolts around who we enjoy spending the most time being around.

Who makes us our happiest selves?

Then pour more of the sands of time into those buckets of people.

Choose wisely, there’s only so much to go around.

The Sands Of Time2022-01-03T21:20:26-04:00

Listening Ears

A lot can happen through listening

Listening to our hearts
Listening to our minds
Listening to others

No judgment. Just listening.

Accepting what we hear and feel. Being okay with supporting whatever that is without having to solve anything at that moment.

When we make an intention to listen we’ll hear things even when it is the faintest whisper. It’ll help us block out all of the other noise and be focused on this moment.

That’s when the dialogue changes.
That’s when discovery happens.
That’s when breakthroughs begin.

Listening Ears2022-01-03T21:09:57-04:00

Serendipitously

Serendipity is all around us and when we embrace it great things can start to form. I’ve met many influential people in my life by chance. But it doesn’t happen magically by sitting around, we have to create some spark through action.

  • Go to that new coffee shop
  • Attend that event
  • Message that person
  • Join that new fitness challenge
  • Go do that open mic
  • Go run in the park
  • Ask someone out
  • Go do…???

Sometimes it’s nothing. But sometimes it’s everything.

Life is serendipitous.

One day you’re going along just fine and then, boom, you meet someone you weren’t sure how you lived a life without for this long.

Don’t sleep on serendipity.

It can be a game-changer.

Serendipitously2022-01-03T21:06:18-04:00

Prisoner Of The Moment

We step up to bat in the bottom of the 9th.

At the goal line with seconds on the clock.

One putt away from victory.

These are the glory moments.

The ones that catch the attention of everyone. They are etched in our memories and in history.

But they are no more important than the first pitch, throw or tee shot.

Those count just as much.

They are just as critical to the outcome.

And that’s how we should focus our minds.

No more pressure on the last hit than the first. No more extra thinking or tooling to make it “perfect”.

Keep doing what has been working before. The outcome will be the outcome.

The more pressure we put on ourselves the more likely it is that we’ll tense up and overthink and perform poorly.

A better alternative is to stay focused on each attempt. The one right in front of us. And treat it the same as the ones before only with the added benefit of experience layered on top.

When the pressure is on, the question we might want to ask ourselves is “who is putting the pressure on us?”

We control how we react to the situation so we can determine how “big” of a moment we are making it.

The Greats know how to silence the crowd and shrink the moment.

How will we react next time we face a similar situation?

Prisoner Of The Moment2022-06-28T19:34:04-04:00

Coin Flip

If we believe in something, we should express it, share it, and put it out into the universe.

Nothing may come of it or it might turn out to be the most glorious breakthrough ever.

We won’t know until we try.

Sometimes just knowing one way or another might be good enough motivation to get us started.

Coin Flip2022-06-28T19:31:49-04:00

Sharpened Focus

Going into this past year the main storyline had been that Jimmy Garoppolo was probably in his last season as the 49ers starting quarterback. They drafted his replacement. Trey Lance was eager. They were just waiting things out.

Despite all of that distraction, his perseverance to stay focused has been something to admire. Even as they were going into must-win games over the past three weeks of the regular season, one to make the playoffs and the last two to stay alive, the main storyline that remained was “could this be Jimmy Gs final time suiting up in a 49er uniform”.

It had to be on his mind. It had to have been asked in every interview. The pressure to perform was at an all-time high.

And he rose to the occasion.

Did he play his best game against the Packers in the divisional round? Absolutely not. He struggled at times. He made errant throws. But he never lost focus.

When the pressure was at its highest he made several elite-level throws to help the team to victory.

He could’ve been thinking about the off-season and his next team, his shoulder injury, his thumb injury, or a myriad of other things. He could’ve been distracted.

But he wasn’t.

He was focused solely on the game and even more sharply on each play.

That’s what can happen when you focus and live in the present. You aren’t worried about the next play, the next drive, the next game. You are solely focused on the task at hand. Playing this play like it’s the only one that exists.

Because it is.

We don’t know what the next hours or weeks or months have in store so why worry or why let others’ loss of focus and dreaming of the future get in our way?

We can’t. We must stay tuned to our process. To our own cadence.

One second at a time. One thought. One play.

Our success depends upon it.

Sharpened Focus2022-06-28T19:30:44-04:00

Short-sighted

Life is random and unexpected. Things happen that can be extremely magical at times and can make us more fulfilled than we ever expected.

But we can’t take those moments for granted.

We have to be grateful for the entire path of uncertainty that led us to this point. We have to drop the ego.

If we believe we are the sole contributor to this “success” then we become shortsighted with how much luck was involved. We, therefore, miss out on the golden opportunity to gain perspective that we are incredibly lucky to even be in this position in the first place.

Being in the right place at the right time. Other decisions in the past led us down this path (a breakup, getting laid off, etc). Swiping in the right direction.

Most of it is luck.

The timing is lucky.

Serendipity plays a big part in our journey.

By using gratitude as a tool to open up opportunities, we start building a great foundation to base decisions on knowing that inevitably a “roll of the dice” will come into play.

If it’s in our favor, we can be thankful for the opportunity. If it’s not, we can recognize that not everything will go our way and there will be many times we can’t control the outcome.

We must stay positive for the future and await the next spin of the wheel.

Wherever it lands, we’ll at least be ready.

Short-sighted2022-06-28T19:28:26-04:00

Tool Usage

We can have all of the tools in the world but they are only good if we choose to use them.

Constantly, we make excuses or reasons why we can’t get certain things done. “I don’t have the time”, we tend to say.

Here’s a suggestion. Go to your Settings on your phone and check your screen time and usage for apps. (On iPhone go to >> Settings > Screen Time). Let’s bundle the social media apps…How long did you spend the last week?

If you’re struggling to “find time” then help yourself by making time.

Did you know you can set time limits on apps to help you manage overconsumption (I have a 30-minute daily timer on my social media apps)? This is one example of dozens of reminders, notifications, alarms, timers, etc that can help you manage your time, avoid distractions, commit to a project, etc.

If you are looking to become more efficient with your time, start looking at what you can take away versus looking at what you can add.

The tools are out there to help us. The question then becomes, “Are we willing to choose to use them?”

Tool Usage2022-06-28T19:25:15-04:00

Full Steam Ahead

We must be thoughtful about where we want to go as that will help plot the next few steps down the path. The direction is much more important than the speed at which we arrive.

If we don’t know where we are going, it’ll be hard to pack our bags and be prepared properly for the journey ahead. Although drifting slightly of course can be corrected, the further we go down the wrong path the harder it’ll be to turn back.

Stay focused on our desired outcome and where we truly want our life to go.

Then, start moving in that direction.

Full Steam Ahead2021-12-30T13:21:23-04:00

It Can Happen To You

If we’re not getting the results we want we could consider a few things:

  • It’s too early, we haven’t given ourselves enough time
  • We’re wrong – what we thought would work wasn’t correct and it’s time to pivot
  • We’re asking the wrong people – Audit your group that is sharing advice
  • We’re not talking to the right audience – We might have something magical but it’s not the right group of people who would benefit from it.

We overthink why things aren’t happening to us at the rate we feel they should be happening and start to think the world is out to get us. In the back of our minds, we know this isn’t really true.

If we focus from within and leverage deep self-awareness we might uncover that we are the stubborn ones who are getting in the way.

Growth happens when we are willing to admit we were wrong in the first place, put the ego aside, and move forward in a positive direction.

That positive mindset can allow us to progress with an optimistic view of the world; something that is vital to visualizing success and then staying hyper-focused to get there, no matter how long it might take.

It Can Happen To You2021-12-28T11:13:19-04:00

Excavation Work

Precious metals and jewels are generally not found on the surface. There is a lot of digging and excavation that has to happen to get to them. Then, there is additional shaving and cleaning and sifting that happens to finally get to a clear piece of material. It can be exhausting and excruciating but rewarding in the end.

When we become angry or lose hope or feel like we’re never going to be happy, we have to remember that we, too, have precious things on the inside. Somewhere, deep down in our soul, there are things we know are the most important to us, things we want to do, and the types of people we want to be around.

Maybe we’ve just settled over the years into what has become comfortable and those feelings have been buried.

We have to have the courage to dig down deep and unearth these feelings and expose who we really are.

They might end up becoming the jewels that bring us the rich life of happiness we’ve always been searching for.

Excavation Work2021-12-28T10:59:16-04:00

The Butterfly Effect

Why does a Monarch butterfly do the things it does?

Here is a caterpillar, crawling around the earth and living just fine. Then, for reasons we can’t possibly fully know, it decides to create a cocoon and after a short isolation period, boom, it now has wings.

It now can fly somehow. Not only does it fly but it flies over 3000 miles to migrate in Central Mexico each year.

How does it know to do that?

What magic just happened in that cocoon?

I can’t be for certain but it’s a great metaphor for life.

We are always changing. We are always evolving our thinking. We are always moving forward.

Each day. Each minute. Each second.

Our thoughts and actions determine the person we will be tomorrow, and the next week, and the next year.

Unlike the caterpillar, we can choose our path forward.

We can create the life that we want even if today, reading this, we might not feel we can.

Those can be hard things; change, but we are capable.

We have to have the courage to take the risk of changing from a caterpillar to a butterfly.

We have to know we are capable of the hard work to create action and progress.

And then, we have to believe we can fly.

The Butterfly Effect2021-12-27T15:17:38-04:00

Checkpoint Ahead

Seeing the mile marker in the distance as we crest over the hill can be just the motivation we need to give us the extra pep in our step to keep moving.

That’s why we should consider shorter-term goals to drive us forward instead of these large arduous massive ones years in the distance.

Goals become much more achievable when they are right there in front of us. Instead of “I am going to write a book”, maybe focus on “I’m going to put the outline together this week” or “I’m going to write 200 words tonight”. Those types of goals are much more manageable because they are realistic and time-sensitive.

It’s much easier starting out the race by focusing on getting to mile marker one versus thinking all the way through to mile marker twenty-six. There are a lot of things that will happen between the start and finish of a project so think about setting smaller “micro-goals” and giving yourself the chance to stay motivated throughout versus getting discouraged and stopping.

As we pass each checkpoint, the finish line will become closer and closer and we’ll remain committed to the ultimate goal when we started out; finishing the race.

Checkpoint Ahead2022-06-17T09:25:34-04:00

Consistent Motion

Progress happens over time and is rarely seen in a moment or even a series of days. It’s a continual flow of work that creates the life that we want.

Sure, an intense workout or an unbelievable date, or an incredibly productive day is needed from time to time. Those have to be a part of the equation.

But consistency far outweighs intensity when we are trying to become happier and achieve results that are sticky and have traction.

Get started. Get started today. And get started doing something that is creating change for whatever it is you want to achieve in life.

You don’t have to run a marathon today. You just need to get out the front door and take action. Then, do the same thing tomorrow and the next day and the next day after that.

Intensity is great but it can be short-lived. Find consistency in your efforts and you’ll sustain more long-term growth.

That’s where happiness lives.

Consistent Motion2021-12-16T19:51:57-04:00

Forge Your Own Path

Throughout life you’ll be knocked down, told you’re not good enough, picked on, called names, passed over, and laughed at. Nobody is immune to these sorts of things.

But life is what you make of it and you have the ability to be strong, be positive, and have the courage to forge your own path despite what others may say.

As long as you know you are okay with being different, pointing the compass in a different direction will be much easier to do.

The self-discovery that you can choose your own adventure opens up a whole new path in the woods and will help you navigate a clearer path toward future happiness.

Lean into it. Turn your walk into a slow jog and start picking up your pace.

Forge Your Own Path2021-12-14T22:03:44-04:00

The New Road Ahead

Whether it’s a Birthday, the New Year, or some mile marker we can look back on annually, the question always surfaces. What did we learn this year?

One year older or one year wiser? Maybe both.

Age, they say, is how we feel. So how do we feel today? Turning the page to another year. How did the last year go?

Our answer is not as important as what we do with it. Reflection is one of the most overlooked catalysts to change.

What can we learn about where we came from to set us up better for the road ahead?

What patterns did we learn about ourselves?

What commitments did we keep?

What situations strengthened us?

What tested us all together?

If we’re lucky, we’ll get the chance to play the game of life again this next year.

How will this one be different?

What will we do differently?

When will we do it by?

Let’s not hang on to the past for too long.

Reflect on it.

Accept it.

Respect it.

Turn and look ahead.

Tomorrow is a bright one.

Let’s make the best of it.

The New Road Ahead2022-06-17T09:21:51-04:00

It’s The Climb

When we are running up a hill into headwinds the initial thought might be to zig-zag back and forth to avoid hitting the wind head-on and to help level out the steepness of the hill as much as possible.

But the focus on the climb straight upward, even through the toughest conditions, will create the energy you need to get through it. “Avoiding it” may seem like a more ideal strategy but we can expel just as much energy and not nearly get as far. The headwinds can still push us back off course. Life is going to be hard either way.

The best path is always forward. Through the suck. The discomfort will last much shorter and we’ll stay on course toward our intended path. We’ll come out stronger when we reach the pinnacle.

In the metaphor for life, if we’re going to accomplish something, full steam ahead into the storm is always the way to go.

Brace ourselves and press on.

Life is going to be hard either way.

It’s The Climb2022-06-17T09:18:10-04:00

Get It In Writing

Eyewitness accounts and memory recognition can be some of the foggiest and most unreliable pieces of information when time elapses.

When in doubt, get everything on “paper” and have it confirmed.

Business contracts, project timelines, payment agreements, etc.

We become too nice and don’t want to ask for these things because we feel it’ll add friction to the relationship or slow the process down.

What we fail to recognize, and this is true for other things as well, is that delayed gratification is more valuable in the long run than the initial warm and fuzzy feeling of a “handshake” agreement.

Inevitably, there will be a time when that contract, email chain, or otherwise needs to be brought back into focus. It becomes much less stressful to utilize those agreed-upon terms than the perceived frustrations or difficult conversations we’d have to have upfront.

Write everything down and get everyone to agree with upfront on the terms so that there are no question marks when a disagreement ensues. That is the worst time to try to agree on a course of action or confirm what we remembered we discussed before.

Often, everyone’s memory starts to get a little fuzzy.

Get It In Writing2022-06-17T09:15:39-04:00
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