Even the most accomplished athletes in the world stumble, drop passes, hit an errant tee shot, and look foolish from time to time.
We can’t expect to always “be on”.
It’s normally when our ego gets the best of us that the humble train rolls into the station.
Sure, we have moments of greatness but they shouldn’t be thought of as a given. We have to work and practice to keep our skills sharp and not get too cocky that we reached some pinnacle and are up there for good.
That’s never the case.
We have to be focused on continuing to do the little things. The blocking and tackling. The accessory work. The fundamentals. That keeps us fresh and in the “maintenance mode” to pull it out whenever we need it.
We can’t take a play off. We have to be on call and give each opportunity our best effort otherwise we’ll strike out badly. And not because we just failed with a great attempt but because we took our eye off the ball thinking we are already going to score.
Documenting the journey can be extremely powerful because it allows us to capture the full breadth of what actually happened and underscores the value of trying and failing serendipitous moments, and creating something from nothing.
We can’t just cherrypick the best moments and call it a great life. What we miss when we only highlight the wins or post picture number 27 when we finally got the perfect angle are all those in-between awkward times when we didn’t feel great or didn’t think we were good enough. We need the bad moments, the silly moments, the random moments. We need all of it to know where we’ve been and who we are.
We can be proud we believed in our purpose and knew that it had to be shared. That’s when we are at our happiest. When our authentic selves get to shine through and we are naked to the world. Those are the moments that count. Those are the moments that actually help us grow.
Progress was shared. Not a glimpse of a “perfect” life.
That’s what we should all strive for. Letting the world know where we are different, how we think about things, and how others can use our lessons to help navigate their own journey.
Without it, the story has a lot of holes and is incomplete.
When we tie our self-worth to what we see others doing online we put our minds in a place of false reality. We trick ourselves into thinking this is real.
Those people in the videos with the crowd cheering their name, or in the picture with the caption of them professing their love and unwavering happiness to a significant other, or tagging themselves with another humblebrag about another award they recently won all have the same things in common as us.
They feel pain.
They feel left out.
They feel alone.
They question their purpose.
They question their work.
They question if they deserve to be in the position they are in.
We shouldn’t think that somehow we are behind. We shouldn’t think that somehow we didn’t get sprinkled with the magic pixie dust of “success” and are now less of a person.
We have to get out of our heads about it and create the great work that we know we love to do. Be around the people that fill us up. Do the things that make us feel energized and alive.
The rest of the stuff works itself out if we are making decisions that lean into those areas that make us happy or at least have the potential to make us happy.
We still may be figuring it all out but so is everyone else. Just because someone is able to commit more time to gloss up a photo or putting out more content it doesn’t mean they are better than any of us.
We all matter and we all have a gift we can give to the world. If we know ours then that’s great but if we’re still figuring it out just know that’s okay as the journey to discovery can be painful and lonely at times.
But know that it’s worth it.
And when we discover it, we won’t have to question our purpose any longer and we’ll be ready to give it generously.
Changing the way our brain processes and learns things can be impactful on our growth and one of the best ways to get in this state is by being a beginner learner. It’s by getting well outside our comfort zone and having to rely on parts of the brain that we might not utilize as much. As we all know, most days we turn on “autopilot” and coast with our normal routines.
If we want to try and be a beginner learner again but don’t know where to start, try to do some things tomorrow with our least dominant hand.
Brush our teeth, eat our food, tie our shoes. There is a myriad of things we do all day every day and don’t even consider the alternatives.
By trying this, we have to slow down and think about the process and steps to completion by using our opposite hand. It activates a different part of our brain and it shakes us a bit because it’s so foreign.
But, it allows us to see a different perspective and start to map out new ways to perform common tasks.
Making what is normally easy for us hard can help trigger that part of the brain that we might have to use in situations down the road and it allows us to practice recognizing new patterns and getting more comfortable with situations that we don’t recognize.
That’s a good thing. That’s how we grow to think differently than we do today.
That’s how we become a better version of ourselves tomorrow.
We all want to do something we are not currently doing. From big to small, it doesn’t matter what it is, all of us have things sitting on the “to do” list that for whatever reason are not taking priority.
The first question is why? Should it really be this far down the list and neglected or does it belong there because it’s not an important endeavor?
If it belongs there then stop worrying about it. Stop saying we “should” be doing it but will take care of it later. It doesn’t matter. It’s not a priority and shouldn’t be bothered with. It’s one less thing we need to be worrying about and causing us additional stress.
If we are honest with ourselves and decide it should be given a higher ranking then we have to figure out how we manage to add it to our calendar and the rest of the large list of things to get done. Whatever it might be. If it’s important to us to some degree we have to figure out how we start.
Here’s an idea. There’s a good chance whatever we are trying to accomplish maybe won’t take a full day, or a week, or even months but It will take some amount of time greater than what we might have allotted tomorrow.
But that shouldn’t mean we don’t start tomorrow.
Start the action of completing it tomorrow. For 10 minutes even. Set a timer for 10 minutes and think and act on that thing. Commit more if you’d like but at worst just 10 minutes. If it’s a larger-scale project it might just be the first ideation phase and we are jotting down notes and for a shorter home project, it might just be searching online and actually buying the tools we need.
Every situation will be different. But we all need to start one way or the other.
Forget about the next day and the one after that. Focus on tomorrow. Let’s check that box off first before we get ahead of ourselves.
From there, we can have small wins and mount a path forward.
For now, start with tomorrow. We’ll figure out the rest when we get there.
Nothing Changes If Nothing ChangesBrian Ondrako2021-09-26T08:45:11-04:00
The frustrating thing when you are selling anything is that sometimes the person buying doesn’t always work on the same timeline or priority level you want it to be at.
Although you may think highly of your product it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s high on their list right now.
Empathy and respect for others’ situations go a long way in establishing trust which in turn provides more transparency in our interactions with others.
More transparency means we may not always like the decision or length of time it takes to bring the partnership together but we can at least be confident we’ll get the full story and not be left hanging.
Sales are hard but if we also remember that sales are human it can make it a lot easier to step across the aisle and put ourselves in their shoes for a minute. If we can understand what they might be dealing with we now can take the role of an advisor or friend versus a salesperson.
Their birth. Their first crawl. Their first walk. Their first day of school. Their first tooth was lost.
The moments become memories in a blink of an eye. It happens so fast we don’t really understand what is going on when it’s happening. We take it for granted thinking it’ll always be this way.
In the back of our minds, we know it doesn’t last.
But that isn’t just for our kids growing up.
That’s for the trip we want to take but are “waiting until retirement” to go on it.
That’s for the girl we want to ask out but are too embarrassed because her friends are around.
That’s for the business we want to start but are scared of what our friends might think.
We don’t know when we are going to get this moment again, if ever. We think that life is so long and that we have it so planned out. If we are being real with ourselves, we know we don’t have the slightest idea what tomorrow will bring.
Why isn’t today good enough to try something? Why can’t today be that day we take a chance on ourselves and see what we have inside? Why can’t today be the day we decide to live just for today and forget about tomorrow?
Because eventually today will be gone, and so will tomorrow, and then the next day.
And if we don’t stop and think about what’s happening, we might just miss it going by.