Although there are many things you need to consider with divorce, I’ve found that a lot of men put their feelings near the back of the line. This even goes beyond divorce and wedges itself into all areas of our lives.

Why?

Well, we were brought up in a world where we were told to “Be Strong” and “Don’t Cry” and “Suck it up” and all sorts of other macho phrases instilled during our childhood.

I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be like that.

When I learned to lean into my feelings about my marriage and accept it all, it opened up a world I never could’ve imagined.

I began to realize how I could be happy despite the “loss” I had just experienced.

I felt the stress subside.

I could breathe again.

→ I want that for you, too.

I’m not going to tell you to go to therapy, you have to decide that for yourself, but what I will do is encourage some form of “self-therapy” so you’re not punting from your own end zone anymore.

For me, reading was the game changer. It set me on a path to heal.

Do you really want to heal?

Then…

1. Buy this book, “Loving What Is?” by Byron Katie.

2. Read it

3. Answer the four questions using stories from your own life. Actually, write them down, see them on paper, and think about your answers.

This is the start. It’s not the end-all-be-all but it does get you moving on a path toward self-discovery.

Forget about the childhood stigma of “feeling your feelings” not being a manly thing. That needs to stay in the past. It doesn’t serve you any longer.

Focus on how you feel today.

Believe me, you will become stronger because of this.