It’s too easy to lose sleep over the things that we lose.

We place blame, rationalize, and tell stories. We tell some wild stories.

None of it is helpful. Whether we have control or not, it is what it is.

That’s the realist part of it. Whatever happened has already happened.

The question is, do we have a choice to change it? 

→ If yes, then do we want to?

→ If yes, then do the work to lead us down that path.

If not, then why worry? It doesn’t mean we can’t be emotional, feel loss or grieve. It just means at some point we have to drop it.

We can’t continue to dwell in imagination.

As painful as it is, we must focus on being realistic.

Real to the moment and what is in front of us and then making good decisions going forward.

There’s no sense in looking back.

Not if it’s going to keep us awake with anxiety and worry. Because that compounds the situation.

Instead, think positively. 

Focus on the next step.

Life will be okay. In time, it always is.