How many times would we sit idle in class when the teacher asked if there were any questions only because we didn’t want to be the one who looked like we didn’t understand?
We assumed if nobody else raised their hands then we were the only incompetent ones.
Our conditioning at the time blinded our thinking.
Don’t show weakness.
Stand your ground.
Don’t let them see you sweat.
These phrases were ever-present in our adolescent years and they brought anxiety and fear into our decisions.
Better say nothing at all than be the laughing stock for the day.
We all now realize that was a fallacy.
Vulnerability is not a weakness.
Emotions are not a weakness.
Asking for help is not a weakness.
They tend to be the opposite. Having the courage to show up this way means that we have gotten comfortable with who we are as a person and the scrutiny and judgment don’t affect us as much, if at all, anymore.
That’s a sweet spot to be in. That is when courage builds into confidence.
That’s when we get to the point where we raise our hands from the back of the class. Not only because we are curious about the answer but because we know many others are as well.
They just haven’t developed the courage, yet.
Let us be the guide and show them the way.